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I Am Getting a Divorce

We Decided To Divorce, My Husband Was Having Affairs- He Wants 50/50 Custody So Wont Have To Pay

By: Varla39
Written on December 13th, 2011
Our relationship fell apart because hes never home, he works 60+ hours a week and then has community work he volunteers for. He does not want to pay support to my and my 2 year old for fear hell lose his art studio which is 500.00 a month. How can he get custody if hes the primary breadwinner? My son has special needs so I take him to therapy 2-3 times a week and I work part time evnings when the husband is home. I make almost the same money as him if I work 24 hours a week but sometimes they cancel my shift as Im perdiem at a hospital so i get 16 hours. My job is not benefitted either and my husband pays our insurance which I need as I have a medical condition after the baby. Am I screwed?
By: Varla39
Age: 36-40
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7 responses
  • devilwife
    devilwife

    Yes, go seek a lawyer , to hell with his studio the kid is more important and if he works that much he don't have time to take care of him, I work night shifts in hospital too, I know it can be hard, but pays ok, and then u Will have time for your kid too. Good luck

    Jul 11, 2012
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  • jesse85364
    jesse85364

    Sorry to hear about your situation, im hoping you add me to your frinds list...hope to hear from you soon sweetie, jesse.

    May 2, 2012
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  • Confusicated
    Confusicated

    I think you'll be fine, talk to your lawyer, document everything and insist to your lawyer what you "NEED". let your lawyer deal with it, Emotions will cloud yor judgement.

    Dec 29, 2011
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  • Varla39
    Varla39

    Im told in my state they usually award to the mother. I am his primary caregiver anyhow

    Dec 13, 2011
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    • TexasFreebird
      TexasFreebird

      were you told by a licensed attorney? if not then it doesn't matter. In Texas the judges HATE all fathers but I spoke with an attorney and he confirmed that the father almost NEVER wins custody. But at least I know that for a fact now instead of just hearing it from the internet, etc.

      Dec 14, 2011
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  • TexasFreebird
    TexasFreebird

    You need to seek legal advice from some in your area. Laws vary all over the world and even county to county.



    Contact an attorney. Today.

    Dec 13, 2011
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    • Varla39
      Varla39

      I contacted 2 lawyers and they say the same thing- He would have to pay support, and half house but our house wouldnt sell in this market. Its only 900 sqaure feet. Hwever my husband owes only 140,000 on it with his 10,000 equity loan he used to buy out his last girlfriend. (Red flag, I know,) Our realtor assessed it at 170,000 or so so I would get half that difference. I just want enough for a little downpayment for a little condo or townhouse with a yard for my son and near a good school. In a safe neighborhood. Our current neghborhood is sketchty in an inner city and not where I want to live alone with my son. I want to move into the next town in a more suburban environment.
      I couldnt maintan our house we live in now its a handyman special and my husband and i rehabbed some of it but its not done. Still has lead paint on the out side , crappy roof etc....

      Dec 18, 2011
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