Wish It Were Done Already

I have been married for 5 years and separated for two of those. I have two beautiful children, who unfortunately are going to be effected by this no matter how it turns out. I officially filed for divorce 3 weeks ago.  My husband still lives in the same house as I do, ( we rent separate floors from my mothers home ). He is making it unbearable at times, as he does not want a divorce. He is constantly telling me that God dissaproves of divorce, that I need to get my life right with God, and that I am hurting the children, etc...    He has made comments in front of the children that " I am throwing Daddy away".  As with everyone there is a long story here but at this moment, I am not getting into that. Throughout our marriage, I allowed myself, through him, to lose some friendships, and the rest I lost when I left the church.  So now I really don't have anyone to truely share ( without judgement ) about getting a divorce. Thanks for letting me post.

quellemist quellemist
31-35, F
3 Responses Jul 3, 2008

It is just so difficult but honestly I am sure you will be ok. It has to get better.

I am sorry, but I have a serious problem with how people use religion and the bible to judge and govern others. First of all, the bible is a story that has been interpreted by humans, notably men. Men that have used "God's" word to perpetrate heinous crimes against women. It sounds like the only person hurting your children is your spouse, by making comments about you in front of them. This is incredibly immature and selfish behavior, which further indicates you are making a wise choice in divorcing him!!!!!

Sorry, but I agree with your husband....God doesn't approve of divorce when two people are supposed to be with each other. Did you ever pray and ask God if your union was approved in the heavens?