Coping With Divorce...Its So Sad

im not fighting mine that long...i already really cant stand him....ive learned over the past couple of weeks...to stop crying over the good things think about how many there really were ...and ive now replaced them with the horrible things that man has done to me

I understand that you are trying to cope but thats also dangerous. Always remember that the reasons are set in stone but your ultimate goal should not be hate but to be neutral, he actions void of any feeling to you. I am getting there but I know I cannot have any contact or everything goes to crap so I make sure there is distance. Hate will eat you up not him, he doesn't deserve to be 'forgiven' but if you dont you become his prisoner bound by the feelings he forced uppon you. Hope this makes sense..

it is...im almost forgetting about him...he comes to mind once in a while...but why??? i dont sit around and ask myself anymore its not worth it...hes evil and he knows it...i feel empathy for his girlfriend i really do

I know of someone. I am not ready to say im in love or I love you or any of those things. For now im okay with being single and alone. Its been 2 years now and I think id rather get to know myself a bit better before I get to know someone else right? But ill be okay i think

hes found someone so its not really bothering me as much...well let me correct myself...hes not bothering me too much anymore...were just in the divorce part..i just want him outta my life..and i never wanna hear from him again..im thankful we have no children together....its almost done i hope..all i feel is empathy for his new gf.....hes done such bad things..and proven things...but my step is my own way.im moving on and im clearing my head more and more each day ....i hope it is going better for you as well?

It is okay to miss what a person did good in the marriage...and it is okay to dislike what things the person in the marriage did to you is it not? I miss some thing he and I did together and places we went or talks we have had.Dont forget all the good things happened in the beginning of the marriage. It wasnt until later on he started watching me with cameras and listening to my conversations with my Children or friends or anyone for that matter. I miss the goods I dislike the bads.. There is good in everyone am I not right ?

I will start one day with someone nice. Key words One Day.. Not right now Its time for myself i think ..I had no children with him mine were from someone else....the father of my children is great. My exhusband and i have no children together...back when i was with the father of my kids..i questioned that for 4 years...do i go or do i stay....staying was not an option..well it was...but was it a good one????? not for me...You have to ask yourself is there any love left...can you stand each other...do you think of another person....if you choose to stay bc of your children all the power to you..but maybee seeking help might help..it didnt for me...i do not regret my choice and the father and i raised our children living apart from each other...they are today...wonferul well educated and still loving both myself and their father

I am Divorcing because.........He was bossy...controlling and mean..he plays himself to be a perfect man...hes been caught listening to me while i was in the bath talking to my daughter....when i got out i found the tape in the medicine cabinet...i dried off and went out to confront him he was on the computer...he laughed right away and ssaid...i wanted to see what you guys were talking about because when im in the room everyones quiet and when i leave the room everyone seems to talk....hes parranoid jealous...he had cameras all over the house including the bedroom..he watched me all day when he was at work......he did other things i cannot mention on here ....those are the reasons.and i dont trusst him.hes lied and ive busted him with it..by recording his admittance on the phone....thats why were getting a divorce..he makes up his own reasons....in which i really do not care...as long as i never see him again......

I cant waite for the grand baby...lol..but still need her to bake for a few more weeks.....shes been trying to come for 3 weeks now...just pray please...

Well sometimes Divorce is good and sometimes it is bad. Who knows I wont guess it. If it was meant to be well i think wed still be trying.I am trying to move forward.Its hard of course it is....but im getting there..For you well? It seems like you dont want to leave her.Have you told her this and have you two discussed this? Do you really want to be who you were before...or are you hapy with who you were before and changed because of your marriage. I am who I was and im loving it....lifes short the battles driving me nuts but im getting there

Very true comments, I guess I know deep down that I am better of without her, and that I dont want to be the peson I was/becomming with her. You are right though, that even with that knowledge I dont want one but sadly she is not giving me that option. Its tough getting through but I am sure we will, its just sad the time that was stolen and some things I fear might never be the same again. Keep strong..

2-yrs? wev been separated for well ove a year....I think ill get thru it..it just cant get bettr right its got to get gonig at some point...I met with him today in a private meeting which was requested b him..He asked for another chance...it was the hardest things I ever did was tell him no more changes the marriage is done. we shall proceed get this divorce over so we can both move on

I wish I had your balls! Good luck with it. Did telling him it was over empower you?

Are you talking to me? If your going to talk to me that way..then you need to go write someone else...I will not accept any more abus then I have already have..you call me immature.Is it okay for men to abuse Women? Please do not write me again..I do not need this type of support I cam on here for support...from positive people...You clearly arent a nice person..so please leave me alone.and I do dare you to talk to other people in that manner see if your appreciated there....by the way!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! men can like who they want..but none will ever hit me or abuse me again or lock in in closets or do whatever isnt allowed on a woman.....good bye go waste your time somewhere else

that was very rude, hun. all iam doing is try to help u, hun. when people sanked in deep water, they lost sence of reality and cannot tell right from wrong, or help from let down.

Leave me alone!!!!!!! You were rude not me..I was defending myself..Please do not write me back or respond..I need decent people in my life ..good by

I do....but I cant let myselg go back...and right now im just crying too much where i just cant think straigh right now there was just too much in the relationship...people tell me to cry it out...like ive been crying since this morning and i dont think its goin stop i just wanna get over him and need so much help