DH just found out yesterday that I am no longer in love and want out. OK, so this is all very fresh for him, but he is being an absolute martyr and making me feel like dirt for ruining his life.
He's conceding the house, the kids, the dogs, the furniture, etc. He just wants the bed, his TV and a few plates...and his retirement funds. He's going to get a small apartment and work on growing his business and retirement fund. He doesn't have much income right now and he's sure the kids won't want to be with him and no woman would be interested in him. He is just laying down and dying. I'm trying to tell him he will be fine. We will share expenses for awhile until we get through all this. I'm encouraging him to take advantage of time with the kids. I've told him that he will find a woman who loves him the way he needs to be loved.
Yes, this sucks. I can only hope he will get past this phase and start to function as the strong and confident man I know.