Will It Ever End?

My husband asked for a divorce last September.  Although it broke my heart, he refused to work things out and I agreed on the divorce.  We tried to stay friendly, especially since we have an almost 3 year old daughter who is living with me.  We even filled out divorce paperwork in October that all we needed to do was sign them at the courthouse, pay the fees and we would be done.  I told him straight away that he asked for the divorce so he pays the court fees and he agreed.  In November he moved to another state and is now in a relationship with another woman. 

It is now March and I am at my wit's end.  I have allowed myself time to mourn and move on from what was our marriage but he still hasn't bothered to take the time to come back for the paperwork to be taken to the courthouse and our divorce finalized.  We aren't even legally separated.

I must sound like an idiot for letting this go on but I have given in time and time again to things he wanted and I wanted to stand my ground on this one simple request - he pay for the divorce. 

I don't want to give in but I also don't want to continue after all of these months being legally married to someone who has completely moved on.  I refuse to have some long, drawn out court battle that involves greedy lawyers that just leaves everyone even more angry and bitter...not for out of any lingering feelings towards him (because there are none) but because I know that he will be in my life forever because of our daughter and I do not want that type of relationship to harm her in any way.

I am desperately needing advice from anyone who has gone through this or is currently going through this!

moongypsy13 moongypsy13
31-35, F
1 Response Mar 11, 2009

Burn him? No, that 's not what you would be doing. You would be taking care of your little one.