Just Wanting to Take a Breath.

Here if you ever need to chat... just keep making them smile and allow their laughter to brighten your soul. It will work out darlin'... all in time.

Wow.

Two words: restraining order.

Nobody should have to suffer that sort of abuse whether they're married or getting a divorce.

Do you have any family near where you live to come stay with you for a while? What about some sort of video camera for the outside of your house to be installed without him knowing that sure would proof things. If you have any feelings at all that you are uncertain of his behaviour it is your responsibility to get you and your little ones out of that house and somewhere where you could feel safe.

you sound like you have the beaten down wife syndrome. Give yourself some credit for holding it together he sounds bi-polar to me. That's what my husbands problem is I think

I am going through a similar experience, also married to a professional (psychotherapist) who is not the same man after he got hurt and it appears he has brain trauma. He is able to do his job, but is so volatile, angry, and bizarre around my 3 daughters and myself.

I got a restraining order last year after he ended up bruising me, but I took him back in, only to call the police 4 months later. We've been apart now for 8 months.

I would keep him away and get into therapy. I'd make sure you get the therapist to see he needs more intervention and can contact his doctor.

Wow!! Please contact a domestic abuse hot line A.S.A.P., Not only can they offer you and your girls a safe haven But a record of this will hold more weight when you are before a judge. PLEASE call right away. I am in fear for my own life right now from my "Husband". he is talking to two voices and I have found he has been a complete fraud our whole "Marriage" But this is about you. YOU ARE IN DANGER!!! You must leave with those children immediately. I wish I could help you...
Wouldn't it be great to start a safe haven where women could stay in a secure place and help eachother out? ..... Hmmmmmm Lemonade out of lemons.
I send you peace, hope, and love... I'm pretty infrequent here with all the stress and drama but I'm here for you. God speed.

do not trust a restraining order it is" firefanning" paper and could make it worse if you stay there=.Police tend to think of it as a "drama Queens Prop."= If you can afford it Hire a $30 a day Powerful Lady and let her be your NAN/Buttkicker.(you might find one willing to work at a martial-arts DOJo fitness center)

Have you called the police while he was bothering you during the night? A police report would really strengthen your case if you feel you do not have the necessary credibility yet. In the meantime, keep doing what you are doing and keep your chin up! Everything will work out no matter how it may feel right now. I am sure you are doing what any loving, responsible mother would do and if they do not realize it now, your girls will recognize your efforts over time. Just hang in there and be safe. Just a suggestion - do you have anyone who can stay with you during this time or anywhere else you can go to feel/be safer? Believe in yourself and your judgment, and you will feel and appear more confident. My thoughts are with you and your girls.

URGENT MESSAGE.
This does not sound like a man who has intentionally "Turned on you". Everything you have stated....The emotional breakdown, the FBI, the paranoia .. Deep psychological stress affects the body's physiology-thus increasing stress harmones and altering the body's chemical composition. In severe cases the physiological changes are dramatic (his mind/body connection has actually "turned on itself"). It sounds like your husband has possibly "become" a Paranoid Schizphrenic and is in serious need of psychological help. Many people are aware this condition is inherited but are unaware that it can also appear where there is no family history induced from a result of a nervous breakdown.
YOU NEED TO ELIMINATE THIS POSSIBILITY IMMED.
PLEASE, IMMEDIATELY, CONSULT A PROFESSIONAL. Does your husband have other physician friends who can persuade him to see a phychiatrist? If you haven't already, you need to start a Journal on his activity also include what he says.
If his friends and/or family cannot persuade him into seeking help YOU MUST. Inform them that if they don't get him professionally evaluated than you will. DO NOT WASTE ANY TIME AND IMMED. LOOK INTO THE PROCEDURE GUIDELINES OF THE "BAKER ACT" FOR YOUR STATE. YOUR HUSBAND NEEDS YOUR IMMED HELP. IF HE HAS BEEN VISITING AT 3AM BANGING ON YOUR DOOR......WITHOUT TREATMENT HIS BEHAVIOR WILL WORSEN...... YOU MUST ACT NOW, BEFORE HE HARMS HIMSELF, YOUR FAMILY OR SOMEONE ELSE. HE REQUIRES A PSYCHOLOGICAL EVALUATION.

In the meantime contact an attorney about your situation. Find out what your rights are and the best way to keep your family safe. I will pray for your family.


-The daughter of a Paranoid Schizophrenic

Maybe it's just me but if I had daughters and someone was behaving like that - I would apply for a S&W and then politely explain to the husband that if he doesn't leave you alone - that you have two friends by the name of Smith and Wesson who can do wonders for changing his mind.