Separated and Confused
I have been married for 5 years now and have a 2 1/2 year old child. My husband comes home one day and states that he "just needs to get out". He leaves that night but comes back that evening and sleeps on the couch. The next day I get the blow on how he's not sure what he feels anymore and is totally confused and when I asked if he doesn't love me anymore I get "I don't know". He says it's not you it's me... and he doesn't want to make a rush decision since he's not sure what it is he's feeling... he seems really confused and it's been like this for over a month now.
In that month he hasn't really helped me with caring for our child as we both have a full-time job. I've become a single mother even though he's still living in the house. I finally came to a point that I cannot continue to live this way as it is unhealthy for me and my child. I asked him to move out completely with no excuse to come back except to see his child... and that would have to be arranged ahead of time... meaning he can't come in and out of the house as he pleases.
I'm confused on what's happening with him? This whole thing came out of nowhere and even though I love him I'm startinig to resent him for how he's dealing with this situation... he's not talking it out with me... he goes out almost every night drinking or just handing out with friends... and has no interaction with his child. When he is around to see his child he is energetic... but it only lasts for less than 30-40 minutes. I don't know if he's doing this because he doesn't know how to tell me he doesn't love me anymore? a mid life crisis? not sure where he fits in this family anymore? too many schedules because of our childs needs? my neglectiton of his feelings because of my full attention to our child? so confused.