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Going Thru

I  WOKE  UP RECENTLY WITH MY HUSBAND OF SEVEN YEARS STANDING OVER ME TELLING ME HE WAS GOING TO THE STORE AND HE LOVED ME VERY MUCH AND WOULD BE BACK SHORTLY I HAVE NOT SEEN OR HERD FROM HIM SENCE I HAVE GONE THRU SO MUCH WITH THIS MAN THAT A PART OF ME IS TRULY RELEIVED. ITS ALMOST LIKE A WEIGHT HAS BEEN LIFTED. ALONG WITH FELLING RELIEVED I AM AFRAID, HURT BECAUSE I STILL LOVE HIM VERY MUCH, BUT I KNOW HE IS NOT GOOD FOR ME. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO TELL THE CHILDREN, THEY ARE 9 & 12 YEARS OLD RIGHT NOW THE THINK HE HE IS ON A JOB OUT OF TOWN. HOW COULD SOMEONE BE SO CRUEL MY CHILDREN LOVE HIM SO MUCH.  I DONT NO WHAT TO DO PLEASE HELP.  
ROBINELISEBLANKENSHIP ROBINELISEBLANKENSHIP 46-50, F 2 Responses Feb 22, 2012

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Girl, I know that feeling but trust me sooner or later you will find that you are better off without this man. My husband left me too when my son was only 13 months and he has just been in touch here and there. I felt so empty and blamed myself for his leaving but girl, DONT! You are the best thing he'll never have and he is going to realise that when its too late. He is not worth any of your tears, dont give him a reason to think he was the best ever. I was once bitter with myself and my husband but iv gone through the pain for 9 months now. Iv gone stronger and my son is healthier than ever. Its only now after realising that im going on without him, that he wants to start coming back but NO. You are going to get over him, its not easy but its going to happen. Be strong for your kids and just concentrate on taking care of them. It difficult telling them now that he has left but try and take some time to love them and be with them before you make them understand how well you can do just the three of you without their father. They sure need him as a father figure but just teach them to understand that sometimes we gota live life without other people and some things and do exceedingly well. My son is rather too young to understand ryt now, he is now 21months and can tell that daddy comes and goes. Only when he is able to ask is when I will tell him but i try by all means to never make him feel that gap. You will find a way to get through this sweety. My only advise to you is that make God your best friend and talk to him as often as possible. He works miracles through prayer and things will change in your favour very soon. God bless you

Hang in there Robin... I know you are in deep pain and trying to figure out what just happened and why. Don't question your value just because HE left YOU... You are very valuable, and your children need you...and need you to be strong and ther for them now more than ever. Don't chase after him, but reach out and connect with family and friends and build your support network. It is good that you are getting your feelings out... you are on the right path. Know that I am here to talk if you like... just mail me.

I too am separated - 4 months, and I understand how it hurts.

-Dave