Breakup After A 9 Year Marriage And 4 Children

September 2011, I was happy. I had a good job working for a bank, 4 beautifl girls and an amazing caring loving wife. Throughout October, things started to feel a little different. My wife would walk around miserable and with her headphones in a lot of the time and wouldnt talk to me. We stopped having sex and she never wanted to go out for lunch or walks with me. This progressively got worse and in December, while on my way out to my works christmas party, she told me she didnt love me anymore, we would get through xmas for the children and after christmas she was leaving me. I asked if we could work on it and she said that she didnt love me anymore, she will never love me again so there is no point in trying to make it work, and that marriage was just a useless piece of paper... needless to say... i didnt enjoy my party....
Xmas came and went and on the 10th Jan, exactly one month after she told me she didnt love me anymore she left and took the children. That was the Saturday. Monday I went into work and found out I was being made redundant at the end of March.... I'm not having a great year......
My ex has recently been pushing her best friend on me.. her friends needy and has 5 children of her own. Shes very insecure due to having a wife beater at home and my ex is trying to get me to sleep with her friend because her friend likes me (actually stalking me).  I'm not a male slag as she may think but she did make the mistake of telling her friend the real reason why she left.  My ex's childhood sweetheart was sniffing around and she wondered what it would be like.  She left me for him and has been seeing him since.... with my children in the house.... Makes me sick....
She doesnt know that I know and I would rather keep it that way but everythime I see her to have the children, it all comes back and I remember how much I love her all over again.  I would never go back because of how much she has hurt me, also she's no longer the woman I married... I dont know who she is anymore... I just want my wife back.... my friend... the only person who I have ever loved...
LeslieKite LeslieKite
26-30, M
1 Response May 8, 2012

I feel sorry for your story. I know you may not believe it now, but I'm pretty sure life will make her pay for the mistake of letting a husband and family torn apart to go out there and just try a "new thing".<br />
I understand that If she doesn't love you anymore, it was the right thing to ask for a separation, but it's a bit strange that it all happened so fast...<br />
Well, just hope you can find happiness again, and someone who really loves you.<br />
My best wishes to you.