My husband of 19.5 years woke me up at 5am two weeks ago to tell me he was leaving. We have been together for 24 years.
Now, I guess the whole "how was I the last to know" situation is true here. Less than a week before he told me he loved me. We made love frequently, laughed, had a great life, were reaching the point where things get easier, with grown kids, a beautiful home, a cottage. He told people he was "the luckiest man on earth", everyone who knew us would say that we always had fun and were a great couple. I agree, we were.....so, what happened?
I love him completely, and my heart is so broken I am not sure I will get over this. I have always loved him and our life together. We are both fit, healthy and enjoy the same things. We discussed our future regularly.
Now, he will not speak to me unless it is via text message or through our children. He will not go to counseling. He says he needs time and space to "heal deep wounds". I have never done anything to cause deep wounds??? I am trying not to contact him, but I feel the need to communicate, to understand. AND, I want to fix this and get back together. He says he is not with anyone else, and thinks he is better off alone. He moves into his own apartment this week, and it is killing me. I miss him so much.
Does anyone have any ideas, insights, understanding of how this could happen? I am so devastated, and finding it hard to sleep, eat, and function.