There Has Got To Be A Cure For This!

honey, I suffer from depression and always have, it's a kind of depression called melancholic depression. So I've been on anti-depressants for years, and I just don't want you to be afraid of them. I don't think I am suffering as much as you all from the menopause (womenopause, my friends said the other day), and it's probably because I am already on anti-depressants. I know it's a little difficult to get off them, you have to go slowly, but I think compared to what you are describing, it's worth it. I mean, I don't have to go off them, what do I know. People think of anti-depressants as some kind of moral failure, and it's not it at all. It's just chemistry. Also, I kind of cured my hot flashes by eating less carbs, it seems the carbs turn into sugar in your blood two or three hours after eating them. But another friend said she gets hot flashes when she gets angry, so it's pretty complex. Lifelongstudent, you sound like you have such a good attitude. From my own experience, I suffered a great deal in silence before going on anti-depressants, and from my perspective now, I just feel I lost all those years. I know it's not the same, but just don't suffer needlessly, eh?

OMG-- lately I am having a bad time with it as well!
For the past two years, I've mostly been dealing with night sweats and having a difficult time losing weight, which, well, I guess I can live with the extra pudge, then last month I had my first taste of the anxiety and nausea, and the weirdest feeling, like I was on some drugs or something that made me lightheaded so I went to the ER thinking I might be having a thyroid storm--but blood tests were negative, in fact, my thyroid levels were fine. (I had irregular thyroid levels during and after the birth of my last 2 kids 4 years ago and I have some nodes on my thyroid which are being monitored). A week later, the same feelings came back, but there was numbness down my left arm, so again I went to the ER believing this time I was having a heart attack and so I spent the night in the cardiac unit, and had a whole bunch of tests that turned up negative (thankfully) for any heart troubles. The cardiac doctor tells me to see my PCP.
My PCP can't see me for another month and I'm not really sure what she can do for me. I am not a good candidate for HRT as there is a history of blood clots in my family and I have never taken the Pill because of it. So I saw my chiropractor to help with the numbness in my arm and that helped. My chiropractor also has an energy healer working in his office, so I booked an appointment for craniosacral therapy, which gave me a big boost in energy and I felt a lot better than I had in a while. This lady was really good-- before we even got to work, she asked if I was having problems with perimenopause! I plan to see her again soon, but since insurance doesn't cover her therapy, I'll have to wait until my budget will allow another appointment. This was 4 weeks ago.
And then yesterday I had another bout of the anxiety, but it wasn't so scary this time since my arm and chest didn't hurt now that the chiropractor has worked out the kinks. But I really hate that feeling of dread--like the world is going to end tomorrow or that I only have a short time to live or just that something terrible is about to happen. And I know the anxiety is just hormonal and I tell myself everything is going to be fine but the mind-over-matter stuff doesn't apply here, I guess. So, as it happened after dinner time, I let my husband put the kids to bed and I went to bed too. And hot flashed all night.
This morning and all day I've been dealing with the nausea and 'out-of-it' feeling and I want to cry! (and I have been weepy on and off but I don't want to scare my kids, so I keep it to myself) It was so bad by late afternoon that I made dinner and kept it warm so my husband could feed the kids and I wouldn't wretch at the table.
I have no one really to talk to about this-- my neighbor went though menopause like 30 years ago and doesn't remember much of it. My mom had a total hysterectomy-ovaries and all--and claims she never went through any of the symptoms though I can remember her being a mega-***** for a few years. But she doesn't recall that. (LOL)
I talked with the crossing guard on the way to school this morning and she said she didn't have it too bad and didn't do the HRT. (I'm laughing at myself because I'm feeling desperate enough to ask ANYONE about their experience with menopause!)

I must say, I feel like watching "Fried Green Tomatoes" just to see Evelyn Couch (Kathy Bates) talking with Ninny Threadgoode (Jessica Tandy) as they talk about "going through the Change". Maybe it will make me feel a little better.

I had no clue it could be this bad! Your mother warns you but there's no preparing for this! I feel like I'm mad at the world I don't like anyone I cry all the time I don't sleep eat right ect...I tried hormones they gave me diarrhea I've tried natural sources they don't work! I almost made it a year without my period guess what I started now its another year of this madness! The icing on the cake my life is exploding before my eyes! Outside of menopause...vertigo from an infection in my ears nose and throat, my sisters suicide my mother was diagnosed with stage4 lung cancer she's got less than 6 months to live, last but not least my stalker! What the hell do I do with this? My positive thought process is fading fast but I continue to fight back in the end I guess that's all I can do!

hi just want u to know i feel so much the same i started the menopause after only having 3 periods in a year first thing i had was a dreadful itching then awful insomia with anxiety i was put on hrt and anti anxiety drugs i felt better after about 3 months that was 3 years ago got off the anti anxiety pills sleep was normal thought i would try to take 1 hrt a week off well last month the insomia anxiety came back so back on pills again took a month to feeling better hopefully i will get back to feeling myself it is awful so my heart goes out to u but sites like this really help me to know that we are not alone in all this all the friends i know have sailed through it so dont really understand but saying that i have people praying 4 me as well my faith also has helped

Hi, you sound really frustrated, and I really relate. I have all these symptoms and severely poor sleep. I do take a herbal supplement that helps my mind, and I recommend you try some herbal supplements, like Black Cohosh or something. I think different things work for different people, so just keep trying different stuff, if you have money. Good luck, and have faith.

this is what has happened to me ....

Insomnia,

Blubber Belly,

migraines,

feeling off, not quit well,

gained weight,

developed severe allergies,

food doesn't taste the same,

losing my beauty

developed severe itchey skin