How to Get Through This Without Begging Him to Stay

I met my second husband through an online singles. He was unjudgemental of me, and liked to be kissed and held a lot. He at first didn't want to date me because I had children and he was 6-years older. But we became friends. We have been together for almost 10-years. We both got real heavy and well sex was hard to do. He also likes being hugged and held, but he doesn't like to hug and hold. So I think I was pushing him away not knowing it, because I wasn't hugging or holding anymore, anywhere near as much as I used to. He just didn't do it for me.

Well now he says sex has been almost non-existent and I don't give him all the love he needs. That hurts, because we really did get along really well, but he says he feels like the only thing we are is best friends and he has fallen out of love with me. It hurts. Because he has been my best friend.

*July 25, 2010* Update: I guess I am happier for us to be divorced. I did bow out gracefully. I found that in reality he was a very grouchy person. We are better off without each other. Sometimes we have to walk through the door to realize how good it is to do so.

Catt1960 Catt1960
2 Responses Apr 5, 2009

Its hard to take but I've heard it described as chapters in a book... sometimes people go on without others I guess...

Do u want him? Really.. r u sure? I am not sure reading what u say..did lack of sex drive u apart?<br />
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If u love him does he still want u as a friend only?<br />
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However u may b better letting go,getting a new job hair style and moving from the old u to ensure u r happier than dwelling on the past with your ex.<br />
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There are plenty guys who will love u as u are,this ex has said it is over if u can not prevent it,accept with grace his decision to move on.<br />
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Enjoy your new found freedom.<br />
Life will get better.