Unexpected and Uncertain

She's five weeks gone and I'm feeling a massive mixture of happiness and panic, added to a collasal amount of fright.

In Aug 08, I'm going to be a Dad!

I am 29, with a career that means I travel internationally at least 100 nights of the year.  Plus I have just started a part time MBA.

She is my girlfriend, 27, and working/studying part time.  Our relationship has been rocky in the past, and we've been close to splitting up a few times - always driven by me, if I'm honest - which is why we are not married.

How am I going to learn how to be a Dad?  Everything is about to change and I am so scared.  What if we continue to have a rocky relationship and that rubs off on the child??

The real problem is that none of my friends have gone through this yet, and I have no-one to speak to apart from my Parents (and hers) who we haven't told yet anyway..

I would love to get in touch with others who are going through this and similar situations right now, or have some wise words for me..  I really need all the help I can get, I am happy, really, but so scared!

NewDad1978 NewDad1978
26-30, M
1 Response Dec 12, 2007

So, I'm a little anxious, excited and freaked out I just found out I'm going to be a father. I just found out my wife is pregnant. We've been together for 5 years and married for 2 years. I'm 27 years old, and just graduated from college at Ohio State last year. Three months ago we moved away from family, and drove out to Arizona...to "try something different." Well, just found out over Christmas that my wife is pregnant, and due this summer. Holy, @#$!. Anyway, it's sounds like you're situation could be complicated. Having a kid really can throw a wrench in things if you're not prepared. Hell, I don't even know what preparation is at this point, having just found out a week ago I am going to be a dad. The very sound of that is exciting, but freaky to me too. I'm am not thinking clearly yet, but the most clarity I can siphon out from my muddled mind at this point is that life is about change, and adapting to the unexpected.