It Doesn't Feel Real But Its Happening

My wife is 8 weeks pregnant and yesterday was the first doctors appointment i have been to, it was the first time reality set in, I'm going to be a father!  It didn't really set in when she told me at 4 weeks but today speaking to the doctors really gave me wake up call.  All of a sudden i'm sitting in the doctors office getting pamphlets and pregnancy prenatal pills, and personal midwife phone numbers and new appointments so i can hear my child's heart beat at 10 weeks, it was too much for me. Hearing all these things brought wave after wave of emotions and concerns; would i be able to provide for my child, would my marriage survive because my parent's didn't why would mine?  My main concern was that i have a health and happy child i don't care if it's a boy or girl as long as i could make sure they were happy and healthy.

Whats next? How will our lives change? Will my wife still enjoy all the little things I do for her? Will we still enjoy each others company? Will we still be able to jump in the car and tell no one that we decided to leave for two weeks? when i think about it i'm unsure of the answers to my questions and that's what scares me most. These were just quick thoughts that i was able to squeeze out of my head.

inervibeu inervibeu
26-30, M
4 Responses Mar 2, 2010

That was a very honest perspective. As a woman and a mother I appreciated hearing it. Congrats! It will be a ride. Some joys will go dormate, other new and unbelievable amazing joys will be born, for you and your wife together.

well i am expecting to be a father in 1 months. hoping and scared. just want everything to go fine and hold my baby tight. your experience made me join this group. just because i share the same feelings as you. in india getting a baby boy is most wanted but i just want a healthy baby. boy or girl no issues. rest about my feelings they are exactly the same.

Congrats :) All of your thoughts are normal. You'll have no clue the changes your life'll undergo after your precious one arrives but being a parent is the most amazing thing ever. My husband and I had 2 babies at once!! Stressful yes and life hasn't been the same since but I'd never go back to life before them. The first year is hard....but get through it intact and your marriage can stand up to pretty much anything. Enjoy every second...it passes in a heartbeat and before you realize it they aren't babies anymore. Ours turn 2 in July. Sigh :)

First of all.... Congratulations!!!!! Being a parent is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I know you will feel the same way. <br />
You have to know that your concerns are completely normal. I felt the same way when my daughter was born. I couldn't even keep my plants alive! How was I going to keep a baby alive? But we do... <br />
My best advice is read up, ask questions, don't be afraid to ask for help, and when that baby comes enjoy them. It truly does go by too fast.