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He's Leaving In Two Months!!

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months so far, and I love him so much. He has just signed up with the ARMY, and will be leaving for basic training in two months. I have no idea how to handle this, and I don't know what to expect.
dudlegirl9 dudlegirl9 19-21 3 Responses Feb 6, 2008

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I was almost exactly in your boat when my boyfriend left. We had been dating for about 10 months before he left for basic and we we're crazy in love. It will really hurt at times, I'm not going to lie. You just have to keep reminding yourself that he is missing you just as much! Send lots of letters, and word to the wise, LOTS AND LOTS of pictures!! I can't tell you how much he cherished those over anything else. He will need something to hold on to every night to remind him of you. And your just like me, when going into something so big with a relationship so new you will NEED to talk about trust. You have to prove to him you will be loyal, cuz trust me he's going to be a reck about it. You have to remember he will be in a harsh environment. it's all negative reinforcement, yelling and sleep deprivation and not to mention being ripped away from your family, friends and you. It's gonna be hard for him.<br />
Now as for you, it will be hard not getting texts everyday or being able to talk to him whenever you pick up the phone. Your communication will suddenly feel like the 1800's with nothing but letters. Write him lots and he will write you when he gets the chance to he'll write you too (you have to remember they will tell the soldiers when they can and cannot write, so it will be a little less then yours. not to mention he's going to be writing his family and close friends too in that small amount of time). But you will get a few phone calls here and there. For us it seemed almost once every two or three weeks, which is really hard but the sound of his voice will be complete bliss for you, I promise. And know now that there is a family weekend near the middle/end of basic, talk to his family and see if you can surprise him! That will mean the WORLD to him! I did it and it was the best weekend of my life. <br />
Sorry for so much texting! I just wish i knew a lot more going in to basic with him.

Hello, my name is Cherryann and I am an army girlfriend of a soldier in the army. He is stationed in Fortknox, Ky right now finishing up his A.I.T. and graduating next month. Where is your soldier going to get stationed at and what is his M.O.S.? Talk about the future between the 2 of you. The 1st letter that you will get will be after like 2/3 weeks after he leaves because the 1st couple of weeks will just be a lot of training. My advice to you is to really trust in God with all of your heart, because God would never give you anything that you cannot handle. God will be with you even when they leave. Cherish every moment that you have with one another, and try not to get into arguments about the smallest things in life. Life is just but a breath to waste our time arguing in life. Being an army girlfriend is one of the toughest challenges that life can bring. Focus your eyes and heart towards God. When you get a chance, youtube the song "If you want me to", by Ginny Owens. If you have any questions, just ask me. <br />
Army girlfriend....Cherryann

Expect a lot of serious talks between the two of you. He wants to KNOW you are going to wait for him and be there for him when he comes home. That and maybe expect some fighting...he's going to get nervous and he wont want to show it.<br />
I know my boyfriend and I fought a lot before he left, but the last few days before he did leave he was totally at ease and a sweetheart. That and you can't ever explain the feeling you get when you get that first letter from him. Its simply amazing. If you two are really in love this "test" (as we call it) will be easy as pie. If you ever need anything let me know, I'm in the same boat.<br />
~timmysgirl~