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I'm Not Judging Any Individuals Here

Before anyone comes and makes some harsh comments or blocks me or whatever, I need to make it clear that I am speaking of society in general here...not any specific people.  So don't think I'm bashing you or anything.

People are just becoming indecent and irresponsible these days...and I'm sick of it.  The main thing, although not the only thing, that I've noticed is sexuality...people think it's okay just to go and flaunt their sexuality like it's no big deal.

For one thing, there's the whole abortion issue...people are either pro-choice or pro-life.  Well here's the thing...I'm pro-choice AND pro-life.  Now I can understand if you're for abortion because of rape or sexual abuse or anything like that.  But in every other case of pregnancy, if the sex wasn't forced on you, you made the choice.  The woman made the choice when she had sex with the man.  If she didn't do that, she wouldn't have had a baby.  So now she has to suffer the consequences of being immature, irresponsible, and giving into her impulses.  Killing a baby is no way to get out of your own responsibility.  It's not the baby's fault that she got pregnant, it is her own.  Like I said, this does not apply in cases of rape or anything, so I can understand where you're coming from if you're talking about that.

It seems like everywhere I turn, I see something sexual.  I turn on the TV and see "Sex and the City."  Then I turn on the radio and hear some song by Akon called "I Wanna F*** You."  Then I get online on any social networking site (not necessarily EP) and see someone's profile with a half-naked avatar, and under "hobbies" or "interests" or whatever, it says something like "having sex"...and their entire profile has to do with sex!  SEX SEX SEX SEX SEX SEX SEX!!!  Isn't there anything else that people can think about?  I'm not saying there's anything wrong with sex, but there is more to life!  I have interests horseback riding.  But it's not all I ever talk about and think about!  Sexuality is a natural part of every human being, but that's the's a PART of you, not who you are!  You're not just some walking, talking penis or vagina!  You have a brain, use it!  Use your brain to make decisions, not your gonads!

I've made some comments relating to this issue on Ep, and people call me immature.  This makes no sense....I'M THE IMMATURE ONE???  I'm not the one going around wearing my sexuality on my sleeve!  Just to let you know, I'm in my "sexual peak."  Men go through their sexual peak in their late teens and early 20s.  I have sexual desires.  I have sexual fantasies.  I even **********, believe it or not.  I see scantily dressed girls, and I see hotties on TV and think, "Man, she would be so much fun to have sex with."  But I don't give into those impulses.  I'm more mature than that.

Promiscuous people go around and have sex with people carelessly, and then years down the road, when they have three unwanted children and five STD's they're complaining about why they have to be put through this.  I just want to slap them across the face and say, "Well, DUH!  You asked for it when you had all that sex!  If you had just used your head and not given into your animal instincts, none of this would have ever happened to you!"  But guess what...I don't say that, even though I want to.  That's because I'm not giving into my impulses!  I control my instincts and use my brain instead of my testosterone!

Then women go around wearing tiny little thongs and stuff.  They get tons of boyfriends, and all these guys want are sex...they don't care anything about the girl as a person.  Then the girl complains about, "Why are all guys such jerks?  They treat me like an object, not a human being!"  This also makes me just want to say, "DUH!!!"  If you dress and act like an object, you're going to be treated like an object!  Get some common sense!

I'm talking about mainly sex here, but like I said at first, it's not just that.  People seem to just be irresponsible in lots of things.  Another example would be drug and alcohol abuse.  People try drugs and alcohol, get addicted, and years down the road, they're homeless and unemployed saying that the world isn't being fair to them.  WELL DUH!   You're the one who took the pill or smoked the crack or whatever!  The world is being completely fair to you!

Why can't people just grow up and take responsibility for their own actions???

As I said before, I'm not picking on any individuals here, I'm just talking about irresponsible people in general.  So don't take this personally and try to bash me because you think I'm trying to bash you.  I'm not...I'm just freakin' fed up with this irresponsible, sex-obsessed society.

RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M 70 Responses Aug 7, 2008

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I disagreed with some of your assertions regarding abortion; if done within the first trimester it's basically the removal of a cell cluster, and not a killing. I'm pro-choice, but am actually more puzzled with people who only agree with abortion for rape or ****** than those who are "pro-life" across the board. If you consider abortion murder, what difference would it make how the conception took place ? And for that matter, if you believe a woman facing an unwanted pregnancy is irresponsible, why would you trust her with a child ?Having said this, I totally agree with what you've said about the oversexualisation by the media and everything else of today's society. What especially terrifies me is the pressure placed upon kids to be part of it. The clothes, tv, music videos, even video games, and the internet, all encouraging kids to be sexual, with ever present adult predators urging them on.

I agree with most of what you said, but it isn't the woman's fault if she got pregnant necessarily. Men are supposed to be wearing protection as well. I can't use spermicide bec I'm allergic, and I can't go on the pill. However , for women who use abortion as a way not to get pregnant, they should just have their tubes tied instead.

Like I said in a previous comment, it's not solely the woman's's both the man's and woman's fault. But if one person resists, be it the man or the woman, it can prevent anything from happening.

While i agree with most of what you said about our sex-obsessed society and women being so slutty lately but still i can not support what you said that they should suffer for having sex. They didn't mean to hurt anybody and sometimes the contraception doesn't work or one of them got the other sick. It not necessarily their fault. And blaming them for being unlucky is not the right answer. and as for abortion it is not always the right answer but most of the time a woman isn't capable to go through the pregnancy and she should have a safe way to get out of it. you cant argue that killing an cluster of cells is wrong when we torture and kill animals everyday for nothing more than fancy boots and wage needles wars in which thousands of innocent die for no particular reason. And last but not least just because you cant get laid doesn't mean that you have to criticize those who can OK

I CAN get laid. I've had women beg me for sex before. I just refused to give into their immature desires. Also, I never said I'm blaming anyone for being unlucky. I'm blaming them for being irresponsible.

Most of these people wear condoms and take other precautions to stop STD s and pregnancy so you cant just call them irresponsible. All people have sex that doesn't mean that they are immature , they are just human.
PS: The first two sentence's of your reply scream of overcompensation.

I'm just stating the facts because you seem to be under the impression that I want to get laid yet am unable to do so. I simply have little to no desire to get laid. At this point in my life, there's no point. There's nothing good that it could lead to. If/When I get married and am ready for kids, then I will because there will be a point, and it will be helpful, not unnecessarily complicating and potentially destructive.

Let me get this straight you are asexual?

I'm not asexual. I'm attracted to women. I just don't have much sexual desire. Like I said, I want to have sex someday, but for now, ************ is a completely satisfactory outlet for sexual release.

See your doctor, your loss of sex-drive might be caused by some health problem.

I wasnt laughing until i read that comment... "I can get laid. Ive had women beg me for sex before. I just refused to give in to their immature desires." please....

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I do agree that the world is full of irresponsibility and selfishness, and that there is too much public sexuality...however, that doesn't mean children shouldn't be informed because it can put them in dangerous situations. Also, pregnancy is incredibly painful, stressful and dangerous; while I agree that having unprotected sex is stupid I don't agree that having protected sex that fails is. The "baby" you're killing is an's as alive as a tree. People rip invasive species of trees out of the ground every day to protect the earth, but it's sad that people can't terminate an embryo because of a woman's health and free will.

I never said children shouldn't be informed, did I?

I know. Just bringing up an important point. If the world was desexualized people might try to stop kids from being educated.

I agree with everything u just said up there.

Switchfoot's, "Easier Than Love". I think you'll find it relevant:<br />
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"Sex is currency, she sells cars and she sells magazines. Addictive, bittersweet, clap your hands with the hopeless nicotines. Everyone's a lost romantic, since our love become a kissing show. Everyone's a Casanova, come and pass me the mistletoe. <br />
Everyone's been scared to death of dying here, alone.<br />
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She is easier than love, it's easier than life. It's easier to fake and smile and bribe. It's easier to leave, it's easier to lie.<br />
It's harder to face ourselves at night, feeling alone. What have we done? What is the monster we've become? <br />
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Where is my soul? (numb)<br />
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Sex is industry, the CEO of corporate policy. Skin-deep ministry, suburban youth? Hail your so-called liberty.<br />
Every advertising antic, our banner waves with a neon glow. War and love become pedantic. We wage love with a mistletoe. <br />
Everyone's been scared to death of dying here alone.<br />
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Sex is easier than love."<br />
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It's easier. They give in because they want to, because we're taught to go for what we want, and build it up- NOT to think of how what we do effects the world around us, how we ARE our culture, our media, our politics. We are the problems we see around us, and until human nature is challenged, put down, only showed in the best of ways? This will continue, maybe even get worse as society gets more "accepting" of immorality, as if it is a permanent flaw.<br />
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I share in your frustrations, you're certainly not the only one who feels this way!

WELL SAID!! I just wrote a blog about WHAT HAPPENED to the MALE creature..and the SEX THREADS...better put, the KINK THREADS..<br />
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I like sex As much as ANYONE but ►I NEED A FRIEND FIRST◄ a comrade in misery if I'm hurting, a Lifter of My spirits with LAUGHTER and other things when that is necessary......Talk to me about something INTERESSSSSSSTING, then we'll see if it leads elsewhere Geeez. I am PRO SEXUALITY--.-- not averse---I believe that keeping it so tamped down, dark and "naughty/sinful" is what BRINGS OUT THE WEIRDOS/repressive ideas are always WRONG/ill placed................... but I don't want the subject PUSHED INTO MY face when I'm in a place like this!!!!!...I can go to a NICE **** spot for perverse chat.....THEY SHOULD TOO.

Bravo ....Hats off to you Sir :)

you make some very valid points here. i think there's way to much sex in everyday life now its disgusting. adverts for moisturising cream, toothpaste,hair spray, washing powder, yoghurt its silly! the music ive heard just recently is explicit and being aired on tv stations and music stations! its hard now to let children be children because of it! you see young teens wearing clothes a prostitute would be to prude to wear! i think society has allot to be sorry for! xx

You make some very good points! i dont agree with some but thats very ok. Im in high school and i see freshman with really skinny shirts and really short shorts and its GROSS!! I am going to have to oppose your opinion with abortion. I myself have not had one and i dont know anyone who has. I just think that a women should have the right to choose what she wants to do. Thank you for stating your opinions!

Your story made me so happy , just hearing the facts, put down in your words which I totaly identify as well as respect tyour story as fact..TRUTHFUL! you inspire me to write two stories , one on the EYES of our friends and neighbors. You are obviously far advanced and this doesn't always set well with others who may be abit jelous and just plain ignorant about how much value there is to common sense. i am so impressed my friend with your thoughts about this issue of SEX<SEX<SEXit's gone too wild for sure. sofican

You totally hit the nail on the head! There should be more outspoken, down-to-earth people like you these days

High five biblesex!<br />
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You're awesome :-)

Oh Betty...don't "assume" anything....lest YOU be utterly ignorant as you so unkindly stated. <br />
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I think it's funny how you profess your freedoms in this country, yet somehow feel my right to speech and opinions don't who is the hypocrite? <br />
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Oh...that's feel we have rights and freedoms as long as they line up with YOUR beliefs...if not then we're just uneducated and ignorant......again, I ask who's the hypocrite here?<br />
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And that's funny..last I knew I didn't attack anyone...I simply stated my opinion on the matter-nothing less. You attacked me for my beliefs-so HOW DARE YOU!!!!

Ropin...way to go in your story!! I couldn't agree with you more. Actually I'm probably even more conservative than you- as I feel abortion is wrong even concerning rape. I have a family relative who was raped by a family member her whole life, became pregnant in her late teens by him and kept the baby!!! He (the baby) is the joy of her life. I think that unless the mother has an actual physical threat to her life in keeping the baby (which is VERY rare), she should never abort. (And honestly, I don't know if I could abort even if it did mean my life...miracles happen everyday, and who's to say that the baby and I might not survive by that miracle?)<br />
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What many women don't think about at the time of abortion, is how this will always haunt them. In the back of their minds they will always wonder the "what if's...." But no mother will ever look at her child and say "gosh, I wish I would've aborted you." And adoption is such a beautiful option. All people (including the unborn) have a right to live! The right to LIFE, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness-sound familiar? <br />
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I also totally agree with you on the sex thing. I'm a very sexual person. I know that God made sex---not Satan, so there is nothing to be ashamed of when it comes to sex. HOWEVER, God never inteneded on it being flaunted and carelessly thrown around. He meant it as the ultimate gift to a MARRIED couple for obvious reasons (thank you God for the awesome gift of sex!!! Ok,there's my shout-out to the man upstairs -lol). <br />
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And you won't die a virgin. You are such a sweet guy and I know the right girl will come along in God's time(I'm sure you're sick of people telling you that, but it's true). I met my husband when I wasn't looking for anything serious. We met at a party that I almost didn't even go to, but at the last minute decided that I should at least stop by briefly. Boy, am I glad I did!!<br />
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Anytime you talk about God or morals on here you're gonna' get people ignited....unfortunately usually not in a good way - trust me I know!! But I'm proud to see someone else standing up for morality. I got yo' back anytime!!!

Well yeah, any species would become extinct without sex. But I'm talking about on an individual basis.<br />
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You know, it's just like drugs. The only way to make sure you don't get addicted to drugs is to "just say no," so the same goes with sex addiction. If you don't want to be addicted to sex, have kids, or get STD's, just don't have sex in the first place.<br />
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I don't really want to die a virgin, but if that's what it takes then that's what it takes. If I get married, I'll definitely have's a necessary part of marriage, especially if you want to have kids and continue the family. But otherwise, the negative risks (there's tons of them that usually influence your entire life) would outweigh temporary physical and emotional pleasure.

I'm going to comment on the story here because I don't really want to read 60-something comments... Basic Christian belief = premarital sex is wrong. Basic Christian belief = live by example. Basic Christian belief = pride is wrong. Basic Christian belief = the root of all evil is money, not sex. Basic Christian belief = no matter how far you've gone astray, no matter what you have done in your life, no matter how terrible... if you ask for forgiveness, you will be forgiven. Basic Christian belief = judging others by your standards is wrong wrong wrong. The basic concept is, here, that you've read your bible and gone to church lo these many years and you have standards set for yourself that YOU are supposed to uphold and if YOU go against those standards it is YOU that will be "punished" (or whatever). The minister at my church (may he rest in peace) said this: "If a person is living their life to the best that they know how, they're doing everything right that THEY FEEL IS RIGHT, then God is pleased with that person." Some thoughts I thought I'd throw out there... Read them if you want, disagree, whatever. I don't care. I've gone to church practically my whole life, read the bible cover to cover countless times... But hey. Look at my life. I'm not a virgin. But I don't drink, do drugs, smoke, etc. etc. I wrote a lot...

By the way, the point is that I don't want to depend on something I don't have to. The fewer necessities I have, the easier it is to have everything I want, and the easier it is to be fulfilled. Why would you choose to become addicted to something?

I guess that's because most of the others were pretty true. Except that sex is needed for survival...if sex was needed for survival, wouldn't I be dead?

"if you’ve experienced sex you’ll realise it’s like giving up food and oxygen."<br />
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But if you choose not to experience it in the first place, that doesn't happen. I don't want to depend on something if I don't have to. Maybe you can't give up sex once you start, but there is a way to not need to have sex...and that's to not start in the first place!

As for promiscuous people <br />
I have learned that everyone in life has a Purpose <br />
There are certain things I expect from the local hooker that I would no way ask of my Wife .<br />
And there are the girls (yes we all know one of them who will sleep with anyone ) And the Preachers daughter who bare more flesh thatn the formentioned hooker .Then we all run to the Preacher to seek forgiveness .<br />
I think we teach our children better and fewer will be as wild and abuse the system of Sex, pregnancy ,alcohol and promiscuity .<br />
And if men & women treated each other better we would have less divorce <br />
"We all find our paths in life or life will find a path for you "

I agree with pretty much everything, even if not to the exact extents you described. All things in moderation, folks. If you're gonna do something like drink, smoke, do drugs, be promiscuous, or participate in risk taking activities, for the LOVE of all the is good, please <i>understand the consequences</i>. <br />
If you wanna get an abortion every time you get pregnant from a different guy, I have no right to tell you otherwise - but I <b>do</b> have a <b>duty</b> to inform you of how dangerous a procedure an abortion is, and what it does to your brain and your body. <br />
If you wanna smoke all the pot you can cram into one week, I won't stop you - but I <b>will</b> tell you how it will affect your thinking, damage your body, and put you at risk of being arrested.<br />
If you're all fine and good with the consequences, then it's your risk to take.<br />
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And I have to say that it's all how people interpret things portrayed in the media. Violence and sex <i>can</i> be tastefully used, and don't neccessarily have to be things that influence the masses in a negative way - but the media doesn't often try that approach. It's gratuitous this, gratuitous that. Too much of anything is bound to be dangerous.

Icygreen, see what I mean? We're arguing in circles and not getting anywhere! Let's just move on, okay?

you're right about moving on.

*my last comment all over again*

My opinion was based on the Bible. This is one thing that ISN'T logical. It's simply based on faith and morality.<br />
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Okay, here's one SMALL logical equation of sex and murder: they are both things that you do that could hurt another person.

Sex isn't needed for survival...I'm a virgin, and I'm surviving aren't I?<br />
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Icygreen, I am willing to debate things like this, but my point is that I think we've all debated this long enough that we're just going in circles now. I already apologized in another I'm sorry...let's move on with our lives.

honest question: so what are you doing about that.. sarcastic answer in response. <br />
this goes back to the pride thing. just because people don't agree doesn't mean it's an attack. an observation was made that perhaps you don't have a lot of experience to base some of your opinions on. you agreed. when asked what you were going to do...sarcasm.<br />
making controversial observations by their very nature invites debate. <br />
i asked a question and recieved no answer. i ask again. site the resources, beyond opinion, that support the statement equating sex and murder? are there statistics? how was the opinion formed; on what evidence, beyond personal opinion was it based?

I agree that we live in a pretty much sex-obsessed culture. But it's natural, it's human. It's needed for survival, we have to think about it! There are much bigger problems in the world than other people's sex lives.

Look, this is ridiculous, RT. Obviously it is not your job to please me. If you are going to post stories that you KNOW are controversial and that may offend people, that many people may strongly disagree with, then you had better expect a debate. If you can't handle it, then don't post stories like that. In fact, if you can't handle people disagreeing with you and trying to discuss it with you then the internet probably isn't for you.