I'm Good Enough Too, But Who Am I?

I've spent the past 22 years trying to be someone I thought I had to become but am not. It did not work out and was at times very hard to bear. The solution was always to move on, work hard and ignore the problems. Not any more! I'm now finally on my own and wondering what I can do with the rest of my life that will make it enjoyable. Looking for a true passion to pursue that I should have found many years ago. There is no way I'm going to continue doing things that make me miserable just because I depend on the resulting pay check. Will this lead to me sleeping under bridges and eating out of dumpsters or is there hope to find something that will allow me to live a decent way? Money is in short supply, so time is running out, but I don't seem to be able to focus on anything.

Uglyboy62 Uglyboy62
46-50, M
2 Responses Feb 8, 2010

Everyone says "forget money, go where your heart tells you." That's easy advice to give because of zero risk to the person giving it. My advice to you is to reexamine your problem. If you have become merely bored with your present state, maybe you can learn to appreciate it again?

Life can be lived by throwing caution to the wind and going after goals which are economically risky. Or one can choose the "safe" choices which are financially stable. Sometimes going after something "new, novel" can lead to juicy mental stimulation but also to savings depleted and poverty.

If you are merely doing what hundreds of millions of other people do which is to go get that money in any job they can hold, and come home and relax, then already have lots of company. I have a job i really enjoy. But i know many people who have jobs they don't like but still enjoy life through family and friends and hobbies, etc.

I just ask that you look at the economic risks of what you're doing. Don't make a rash just to scratch an itch. But if every fiber of your heart - as well as your mind - insists on your original choice, then all the best of luck and happiness to you .

You need to find out who you are. Find out what you like, reguardless of the pay check. Don't go through life doing something you hate. Money isn't everything.