I don't even feel the energy to write this. I have been engaged to this lady for a year, with her 4, and despite numerous challenges and rows it seemed like, finally, peace. I have given my all supporting her in an exit strategy from a 20 year teaching career that was killing her (bullying, harassment &c); somewhat killing me,too - and her ex-partner invites her out tonight over our phone> I am ok about her seeing her ex occasionally 1-1, but I won't be part of a social scene containing him.I have trusted her when she says there's nothing untoward, though she's twice seen him deceitfully with some of our mutual friends, later discovered, and has told him in the past I'm history if I don't accept him .Any how, she says she will meet him in the week to put a stop to him phoning at home and will give him her cellphone number, seeing him only once in a while for coffee. I'm having trouble sleeping with this playing on my mind, I'm trying to follow a spiritual path, trying to get rid of 'I'll kill him thoughts, so I go on the web to induce sleepiness, look at the search history to see what's been cooking - and she's been searching for ANOTHER EX!! Am I a jealous nut or what?