Kids Need Discipline

A lot of women, when they think about having children, just think that they will be cuddling this cute little creature. Well, a child is a unique individual with a mind of his or her own; your child is not an extension of you. Children are born savages. It is the job of the parents to civilize them. Kids aren't born knowing good manners or proper behavior. Left to their own devices, kids will behave as lawlessly as you allow them. Kids will constantly try to push the limits. It is up to the parents to set, and enforce, boundaries.
All of this takes a tremendous amount of time, involvement, energy, effort, and patience. In order to be a good parent, you have to be able to square your shoulders and act in a take-charge way when kids act up. You have to be an authority figure; you can't let kids intimidate or manipulate you. Just screaming at your kids doesn't work; when you do this, you're just as out of control as they are. They will start using this to get your attention and get a reaction out of you.
I'm not good at, and don't like being, an authority figure. I don't enjoy being the "heavy", confrontation, or ordering around misbehaving people. I don't want to be like those people on "The Nanny"; they obviously have no parenting ability and no control over their kids. Yes, I know that you can take parenting classes and learn discipline techniques, but I'm just not interested. I'm a loner. I like to just stay in my own world and not be bothered. If you have kids, you need to be involved; this is just one of many reasons I know I don't want to have children. This is one of the many reasons I say, "I am happily childfree!"
atpeacewithme atpeacewithme
2 Responses Jul 17, 2010

I'm the opposite on the discipline thing. I think I would probably discipline to the point that my (hypothetical) child would be sad and depressed all the time.

I feel all that. I could never be a mother because I am not good at discipline. My niece walks all over me. She is too much for me!