I Am Still Young...

So I know full well that I can 'change my mind' as everyone says, every single time that I tell them we don't want to have children. I didn't even like children when I was one myself. Nasty little buggers! LOL I don't hate children or love children. It all depends on the individual child. I see cute children sometimes and I will enjoy looking at them for a few seconds, but I won't suffer from being irresistably drawn to them and unable to quench a desire for one of my own. I have never had that. Seeing a cute baby is the same as seeing a cute monkey at the zoo for me. Sweet, but I wouldn't want one. Thankfully I haven't had to experience anyone being nasty to me because of my position on children, but my husband has. He has been accused of being 'selfish'. I don't think deciding to have a child is selfless. What are people's reasons for having kids? 'Because I want one!' What's the difference between saying that and saying 'Because I don't want one'?

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3 Responses Mar 11, 2009

That is scary when your husband has stated that it is 'selfish' not to have children. Usually, that kind of language comes from someone that doesn't know you at all, not from someone who knew from the get go that you were firm on being childfree, and were not a fencesitter, or would change your mind.

I get the "you'll change your mind" thing all the time! It's so irritating! I know I'm all of 19, but, like you, I didn't even really like kids when I was one. Even when all the other little girls in my class would talk about how they wanted to get married and have babies, I certainly didn't want kids. I wasn't even sold on marriage at that age. In fact, I'm still not. I'm just not sure there's someone out there that I would really want to be tied to for the rest of my life.

I've always wanted to respond "what if you change YOUR mind" to someone who has kids and gives me the "you'll change your mind" comment.