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Thank God For Counselling!

I was unhappy with myself before counselling, but thanks to it, I am happy with myself now,  with my decisions, confidence, and judgements. 

The counselling process is not for the fainthearted.  It is very hard, very painful at times, but having worked through all my issues, I feel a sense of freedom these days that I could only dream about back then.   it's hard to describe, I can only say it feels wonderful to have dumped my burdens in that counselling room long ago. 

Life now seems full of promise;  I feel joyful, fearless and excited about life.   It was definitely worth all those tears to get it out of my system, and I would recommend to anyone that if they are carrying a lot of negativity and burdens from the past, to consider investing in themselves and getting rid of the rubbish in a safe environment.  I didn't even pay for mine, as I saw a final year student counsellor who needed a client desperately in order for her to continue on the course.   I was so lucky to have that opportunity because I was very poor at the time and paying would have been out of the question.

I really have a lot to be thankful for.
javeachica javeachica 61-65, F 6 Responses Dec 15, 2010

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After my first divorce I found the need. I was carrying a lot of childhood issues as well, it was worth walking into the pit to clean it out.

Its courageous of you to give it another chance. Sometimes in counselling too much pours out at once, and some counsellors find that hard to process. I think you're wise to try and limit the amount so its manageable. Its quite important as well to leave enough space for the counsellor to interpret what you have said and offer their perceptions about what deeper issues might have been part of the picture, as well as their insights. Those are probably what I learned most from. But also, its invaluable when we take a jumbled mass of confusion, not really expecting anyone to make sense of it, and then a small miracle happens when it is offered back to us in a simple sentence of truth that makes complete and utter sense of all the jumbled greyness! I used to love that, and felt quite humbled that someone else who wasnt there, could see so clearly! Doesnt happen all the time, but just often enough for a significant learning curve to happen. I hope you told this counsellor you had a bad experience? Or maybe you judge that isnt a good idea?

It sounds like you're getting a lot from it humpty, so you're obviously prepared to put in the work, and I admire that in you. It's great you're getting lighter, I'm really pleased for you.

councilling is helping and has taught me a great deal about myself and when i can lay the past to rest will be able to go forward in a much better light.

You say this so well, it shows you're genuinely beautiful inside as well as outside demonstrated in the realness of what you say.

Oh I so agree! Counseling changed my life. I agree, one must be very brave and ready to feel things that hurt so very deeply. But I prefer the short lived (compared to a life time) intense pain I embraced and worked through rather than a lifetime of low grade soul numbing pain. I think I cried so much my first few sessions that I was unintelligible, then for quite a while I felt I was making things up and then I slowly began to realize what boundaries were and that I actually had some. :) I have seen two different therapists. The first time I went it was to deal with my childhood stuff and the second was a marriage counselor who also helped me work through what it means to be real and true to yourself. I would highly recommend it for anyone who is ready to face their demons and pursue freedom.