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Having An Affair With An 18 Year Old (i'm 47)

I'm 47, married with two kids, a stay at home mom. We were having some work done in our back yard and I ended up in bed with one of the workers, who is almost 30 years younger than me. I've never been so sexually satisfied as the 3 hours we spent together. The sex was incredible, but I'm married. I know I should feel remorse but all I want is more. Is something wrong with me?
lookingformore47 lookingformore47 46-50 21 Responses Nov 4, 2012

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Sounds great. How do you "end up in bed together?" Did you pull him into the bathroom and start kissing madly? Or just give him a beer and admire his tight jeans so he offered to give you a back rub? Just askin...

Well, if and whenever your boy toy has a side project older or younger woman and you just happen to find out then ask yourself that same stupid question!

You sound healthy to me. Go ahead and have your fun BUT be careful. I have had a lover for the last 8 years (not as young as yours..lol) and we are ALWAYS careful, and do not take anything for granted! Have not been caught and have no intentions to get caught. All the best to you!

This is a perfectly natural urge for both of you.

Cultivate him as a sex object, and let him do the same with you. There is no reason why you shouldn't continue with a happy and healthy marriage (as long as you don't start refusing your husband sex).

Maybe he will train you to do some interesting new things that will make marital sex better too. As him to try.

Lucky guy!

Nothing wrong. ...

I have enjoyed swinging life style for decade so I can your sexual urge for young man but in my case i do with my husband's consent. You better stop this or suggest your husband for open marriage if you think that is possible.

I would say it's a wrong thing u did how would u feel if it was ur husband who slept wit another women if ur husband is not satisfying u talk to him wat u want him to do in bed

there is nothing wrong with u lady.Its natural to get attracted to younger guy,

If you were my wife I would encourage you to enjoy yourself with other men. I get my enjoyment from watching. You have every right to be satisfied. Also I am willing to bet your young lover was satisfied.

There is nothing wrong with you - you enjoy the youth, the vitality, frankly, the hard ****! But, your marriage is at super risk if you are found out! Worse, your brief infidelity may lead a court to remove your children and leave them with the husband. Perhaps a healthier way to look at things is to reestablish a great relationship with your husband. Teach him to love you as did your 18 year old. Treat him like you think a man wants and needs to be treated. You may find that the great sex came from you, not the lawnboy. . .

Thank you for sharing this story. I have been wanting my neighbor and I am 39 and he is only 19. I am also married. I haven't done anything only because I am not sure he wants me too.

you want power in your life
you want to break the routine
try to make it crazy with your husband

At 47 you are very natural (biology wise), just let it go as a passing fun thing. Affair to me mean a long term thing.

hmm.. my wife just cheated on me, and i told her to hit the road. so i'm not even going to respond.

SUPERDAVE2 When you told her to hit the road, how was the divorce done. Did she get the house, car and money? I want to tell my wife to hit the road too, and interested in legal action.

we were only married a year, so we pretty much kept what we came in the marriage with.

The rules on what happens with the family property depends on several factors, including whether you live in a community property state (like Texas or Arizona) or not. In a community property state, the family assets are divided equally unless one party can prove serious issues in the other party - such as infidelity, physical or emotional abuse, criminal conduct, etc. You really need a lawyer to assist you if you have a lot of assets and want an unequal split of the marital estate.

Remember that you came into the marriage with certain assets, and if you can trace them to existing assets, you should get those back. Likewise for the other party. Money that was earned by either party is community in nature, and should be split as the court decides. This includes pension plans and 401(k) plans. Usually the courts will give each party their own pension plan unless to do so would be a very gross injustice.

In reality, an affair simply does not mean as much to the divorce as it used to. In many marriages affairs are common and most courts just don't really care who you sleep with, married or not.

As for children, the courts will usually give them to live with the most stable of the parties, no longer just to mom. The other party pays child support and provides insurance, etc.

Good luck! If you have more than a house and a car or two you really need a lawyer to assist you. There is a ton of paperwork to be done to transfer car titles, house deeds, stocks and bonds, etc. You can do it alone, but it really helps if you have someone who actually knows what they are doing.

Nothing wrong with you at all. Enjoy and be safe. As a woman and in an affair for close to a decade, I can relate. Sometimes you just need that. Period!

nuttin wrong with it, although ur married. I cant blame you for looking for more, probably ur Husband cannot obviously satisfy ur needs, after all ur just Human. But, how would you feel if ur Husband is the one looking and having an affair? Would you call that fair just because you were sleeping around?

Up to you darling. You've to remember your married life till date. If your husband has given you no reason to complain, then would you want to rock the boat?

The text of this story is unusually succinct for a 47yr old female in that situation.... I note no gender on profile. Is this -- real?

Put passion back into your marriage, then you will remember why he was the one and should be the only one.. Unless hes abusive, then that should be the story.

Some times we need to have enjoyable experiences to feel whole again. No you should not feel guilty about that, you needed it. If everything stays the way it is now, had sex, enjoyed it, everybody happy. It is great!

I have one worry though about the consequences. There are always some consequences of our choices: good, e.g. you have found a perfect sex partner, less desirable husband found out about an affair.