Betrayed

My husband of 11 years has betrayed me and our son so bad.  He has always been such a great husband and dad and I would have never dreamed in a million years that he would have done his family the way he has.  We had a love and marriage that I was confident was going to last forever.  We had our dream home and farm, and a wonderful life that we both had always wanted.  It all fell apart when he went overseas to work for his company for what was suppose to be only one year.  Before that year was up, he suddenly asked for a divorce.  What was so devastating about it was that he acted like everything was great right up until the time he 'sucker punched' me with this.  He did it two days after my Grandmothers funeral to boot!  Since then it's been 8 months and he has nothing at all to do with our son, me, and not even his Mother.  He wants me to file for divorce and he doesn't want anything we have what so ever.  He is giving up his whole life and said he loves it over there and isn't ever coming home.  He turned 50 this year and I'm guessing he has another woman.  Everyone who knows him is absolutely flabbergasted by his actions....it is totally out of character for him. 

This has been the hardest thing I have ever been through....I thought I was a strong person, but this has almost put me under.  I have cried everyday for the past eight months, I lost over sixty pounds in less than three month, couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, couldn't stop crying.  I ended up having to go to the doctor; he put me on an anti-depressant and a sleep aid, just so I could function on a daily basis.  I have never even hardly taken an asprin, let alone anything like this.  I can at least get out of bed now and go to work everyday.  I am getting a little stronger, but everytime he emails me or we talk on the phone (for business related issues), I fall apart again.  I just really cannot wrap my head around all of this....this is NOT my husband, he has become a person that no one that has known him all his life can understand anymore.  I don't know what makes a man so heartless and one who can change so drastically and leave everyone and everything he 'loved' behind.  He always prided himself on his integrity.......Where is that integrity now?!  Can anyone here relate to my situation or relate to him and what he is going through?  I would love some input and insight from someone who understands better than I do.

dtwlover dtwlover
41-45
1 Response Feb 21, 2009

Sounds like some sort of mid life crisis to me.