After a month of ups and downs and then a week being straight up lied to and ignored...

I broke up with my girlfriend today.

We spent 6 months in bliss, we both had kids but everyone genuinely loved everyone else, and we were forming together as a unit as a family. Making plans for a future together.

Then everything started to fall apart.

I won't go into details because that's not why I'm sharing.

To sum it up:
She became distant, pushed me away, suddenly had no time for me at all. Finally saying "I need time and space". After a while of this, getting zero contact back. I finally had a face to face with her and ended it.

I didn't deserve to be treated this way and nether did my son and her children. Any which way you slice it, no matter what was going on, it had to end.

I told her I love her very much, but couldn't continue to allow her to treat me and the kids this way. That I hope things might change some day, that we could be a family if we really wanted to, but it was obvious that she did not.

Why am I sharing this experience? Because I'm proud of myself for not doing anything wrong, for being a nice guy who got into a bad situation and remained a nice guy and for getting out of it as un-drama-y as possible.

Yes I am heartbroken and very sad, but I genuinely believe it was the right thing do to for everyone involved.

Thank you.

thesingledad thesingledad
31-35, M
1 Response Aug 21, 2014

Most man in my place experiencing that kind of situation too. It's hard to be leaved by someone that already a part of our life and we have no choice but to accept it. As they say "everything happens for a reason", so don't give up stay as nice as you are, and someday or sooner the right girl will come to u and to ur children. A girl that is willing to love you, your kids and everything about you. A girl that contented enough to everything you have and support you in everyThing you do and YOU WANT TO DO. Don't forget to pray :) Godbless you man!