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If You Want To Know Why Many Self-harm

Please view the video below.
Why Some Self-Harm
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1greywolf 1greywolf 46-50 4 Responses Oct 14, 2012

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I used to cut myself when I was at teen. I went to a revival one day and one woman went up to me and said she felt I needed prayer so a group of people started praying for me and I started crying in the middle of it after I felt something leaving my body and she said it was "self-hatred" and ever since that day I have not been able to cut myself whenever things happen however..i do still have suicidal thoughts occasionally.

I am pleased that you were "healed". : ) - - - However, not everyone is and to condemn someone because they self-harm is just wrong.

Right. Have u seen the movie ho to save a life?

Nope

OMG u gotta check out that movie!!

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First off the video is awsome! explains things exactly as they are and raw emotions I cried through it. Thank you 1greywolf. I have strong opinions on this subject as I have first hand experience with it. NOT everybody that self harms is demonic and in fact very few are but it is possible where (MAY BE TRIGGERING) satanic ritual abuse took place. then and only then would deliverence be necessary. Self harm has been elained in the video quite clearly and anyone suffering with it needs our love and support and understanding.

I am sorry that the video was upsetting. I am emotionally charged because I still struggle with this subject myself. Demonic? Don't get me started about a God that would abandon a child (yes I said child because there are 8 year olds that do this) AND I do not, will not, believe that a loving God would do this.

Me and my sister were both molested by the same family member, she became suicidal, I went on with my life, Me and my sister have both been raped, she self harmed, I turned to God and moved on, Me and my sister both felt dirty, I had a shower she cut her skin, me and my sister didn't love ourselves, she killed herself, I turned to Jesus and let his wounds heal me. Something inside of just won't ever let me destroy my body, although I've felt worthless, ashamed, dirty, abused, rejected, exploited, molested, raped, hated, hopelessness those things have never ever ever caused me to self harm, and now my sister is dead! And I live with the loss. I HATE SELF HARM, IT IS A FALSE SENSE OF CALM THAT IS NOT CALM, IT IS DEMONIC! Repent from self condemnation before you really are condemned for self harming! Those who destroy themselves God will destroy them! Just stop, put the sharp objects down and learn to love yourself again and treat yourself and others right, learn how to forgive and let go of the pain.

I am sorry for the loss of your sister... but just because you think you have found the answer for you in your faith...how dare you condemn her and others .... Self harm is way to release the emotional side of abuse just like drinking and using drugs is way to hide from it.... not all survivors do this but the ones who do are trying the best they can to gain some control over it... and they need support not the trash you talk.

In case you missed it at the end of the Comment right before you post it says "Please respond with authenticity, support, and respect."

"Demonic" really and you say you turned to God..I find that hard to believe since after the first sentence all you spouted was hateful, hurtful words that cut deeper than any instrument of self harm ever could.
The next time you feel like spreading your sense of morality and godliness why don't actually pick up the book and read it first.
Mathew 19:14 "Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these."
For those who have been hurt this is not further than the truth...and if you had an ounce of compassion you would temper your words...and only speak with the heart of Jesus. Not embittered like you did.
A dear friend took the time to post this and was stunned speechless by your rude and self serving comments...I however am not...

I hope that anyone who has read those comments knows that they are cherished and accepted and loved not of the evil that was done to them but of light and spirit.

Well put!!!

thank you I tried to be respectful even if the person wasn't but when I read it i was stunned as well...

Oh I can color my words with respect, but there is a hard truth to my words, sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind, if someone mutilates themselves, destroys themselves God will destroy them, I know because my sister did this, I've done my research, many allow demons in by self harming, no kinder thing to do than to tell people the truth about condemning oneself, I am not condemning anyone, they do it to themselves. No greater kindness can I do than to open ones eyes illuminating the road that they are heading down, I am a fair warning! Tell me that is not kindness! It is loves intervention, my advice is for them to turn to Christ, He can and will heal them from all of the abuse, and self harm if they let him.

Love is accepting one another warts and all...and trying to show by actions that nothing done to someone in the past changes how you feel about that person..

.I have done my research also...and if you want to open someones eyes start by having them accept and love the person they see in the mirror... the person standing before them the real them not something done to their body or minds ...

I am an older woman now and it took me decades to accept all of me the in and out...to embrace who i am...and the road that has lead him here..

.I don't believe in demons, or hell, they are made up things and places to punish out of fear...

Well I think there has been enough fear and guilt and shame over things that never should have be en done in the first place..

.and i say instead of seeking to blame the victims why don't we start putting the blame at the feet of those who took away the innocence and trust.

Only then can true healing begin.

I've found healing in forgiving the people who took away my innocents, I've found healing in forgiving those who hurt me, I've found healing in forgiving myself for either putting myself in those situations.

that is all any one can do but we each find it our own way don't we?

Yes, everyone finds healing in different ways and have different mental states. We all handle trauma differently. Sometimes, it takes longer for others to forgive and some never do forgive. That is OK. It is whatever is best for the individual.

well said :)

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Wow!!!!

that was amazing. you all have a great gift. Thank you for sharing that ift with the world.

Have a good night.

Truth_Speaks

Glad you enjoyed it. It shows that there is a reason, many are listed, but also how they will not tell (it is not just for attention, dang it). They will look like anyone else (they smile, and say they are fine). It tells of what to do AND what NOT to do.

nods. the whole "attention seeking" really annoys us sometimes. At the beginning, when we were first figuring out we were a survivor...we tried to deny it all the time. we would say "i'm just making it up" and a friend one day asked me why would make it up. we said "we're just crazy and looking for attention". She pointed out and we agreed that we actually don't want attention. At all. At that point, attention scared the crap out of us. we didn't want to be noticed at all. So to say we were making it up to get attention just didn't make any sense. I think it's similar for a lot of people who self-harm (not all), but they will do everything they can to blend in. To not be noticed. They don't want attention of any kind. it scares them.

*shrugs* I don't know. That's just what we think. We could be wrong. Some people do use it for attention and manipulation. we had an ex or 2 who did that.

ok. we're going to go now cause we're getting scared of talking. see you later.

Truth_Speaks

Thank you for sharing your words, it was very brave of you, and we are proud that you did it.

But it is attention seeking, even in the song she wants to be held, she wants to be loved like they need someone to tell them that everything is going to be okay, like it depends on others rather than God and themselves, truth is they may rarely find a mothers compassion from others, But God is love and loves them more than they could ever know, He doesn't want anyone to self harm, it opens you up to demons, we are to love others as we love ourselves, hense the word love yourself, we must learn to love ourselves, what we need is the compassion and love of God to really learn how to love ourselves. Sure I could have self harmed as a way of releasing pain, or reaching our for help for someone to notice the gravity of it all, but Nobody needs to self harm, I've felt the lowest of lows I am schizoaffective, I've been to the depths of sheol. and felt the lowest of lows, never once did I self harm, no instead I nursed myself back to health.

You say "I am schizoaffective". I googled that and went to Wikipeidia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schizoaffective_disorder
and found this
Schizoaffective disorder most commonly affects cognition and emotion.
False perceptions and disordered thought processes, such as auditory hallucinations, delusions, paranoia and/or disorganized speech and
thinking with significant social and occupational dysfunction are typical.
I rest my case

Everyone copes with trauma in different ways. I am a christian and believe in God. It is OK to talk about it and to seek healing through God if that is what you choose, but to push that on another is not OK in my opinion. Therapy is the answer to healing and getting over the traumas that causes one to self harm or not to love themselves. Self harm is a way to release pain for some. It is not demonic to self harm.

Hmmm. Your opinion is interesting and if one were listen to blindly they would walk away feeling not only ashamed or guilty but condemned as a demon from hell...hmm how about we make sure that doesn't happen.

First of all you say "But it is attention seeking," The term attention seeking (or drawing attention) is a form of situation managing some how I don't see self- harm that way there is no managing only doing the best you can second by second, minute by minute and if you are lucky hour to hour.

Yes the very sad truth is that one rarely if ever finds compassion, the virtue of empathy for the suffering of others. Even if it is regarded as a fundamental part of human love, and a cornerstone of greater social interconnection and humanism.

But that is why the video was produced to help in the understanding of self-harm being used as a coping mechanism which provides temporary relief that mean as the intense feelings such as anxiety, depression, stress, emotional numbness or a sense of failure or self-loathing and other mental traits including low self-esteem or perfectionism return there is a very good chance that so will the need for self - harm.

Self-harm is often associated with a history of trauma and abuse, including emotional and sexual abuse. Many self-injurers are very self-conscious of their wounds and scars and feel guilty about their behavior leading them to go to great lengths to conceal their behavior from others.

You speak of God which is the the supernatural creator and overseer of humans and the universe and love which is said to be a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection —"the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another"

....and actually said that trying to find a way to find relief of such crushing emotional pain opens these wounded souls to demons... a supernatural, often malevolent being prevalent in religion, occultism, literature, and folklore.

Do you even know how damageable and self- serving that was?

And if you have been to She'ol which is translated as "grave", "pit", or "abode of the dead",
is the Old Testament/Hebrew Bible's underworld, a place of darkness to which all the dead go, both the righteous and the unrighteous.

Regardless of the moral choices made in life, a place of stillness and darkness cut off from God. Then how could you be so cruel and heartless towards those who have not been able to escape the pit of despair.

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