I had a friend, Camille, that was, at one point a good friend. She started dating my step brother. After leaving him for a main line heroin addict,(true), she claimed my step brother showed up at her house and forced himself on her. To be fair, she never actually said the word, rape; but the implication was there. My step brother is not terribly bright, nice guy but he is 45 going on 12. He has poor impulse control, drinks beyond excessively, and has gotten physical with other women in the past. We think he has Asberger's Syndrome. He says and does things that are way beyond the bounds of polite society.
In my defense, he does have a history of not taking "No" as an answer. I was upset and told my step mother, who then claimed it was my fault since she (Camille) was my friend. I was embarrassed to speak directly to my step brother about it. Then I asked his brother to speak with him. So the whole family is in an uproar. The ex-friend in question, was at my step brothers house and when David ( Greg's brother, my step brother) mentioned the incident to her she laughed, like it was a big joke. That was almost a year ago. She has moved back in, across the street from us with Greg, whom we rent from. My husband thinks I should forgive and forget since it makes our living here difficult. But I can't. I am feeling foolish for believing her lies. I have very few things that really p*ss me off but lying is one of my biggest pet peeves. I want nothing to do with her, but now she is playing "lady of the manor" and telling my husband what she wants done.
So I guess I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. Maybe I am being judgmental, or maybe just stubborn, but I feel as if she should apologize for lying. I still won't want to hang out and coffee clotch with her but perhaps I wouldn't want so desperately for her to just go crawl back under the the rock she came from.