Frustrated Like U Wouldnt Believe

Hello, Here's my delima! My ex and I have just lost one of our children in an accident and she is now staying here in my house. She says she wants to get back together but she leaves every weekend and than shows up a couple of days later like nothing has happened. I know she is hurting as much as I am but how do I tell her that I want to move on without her. Her family is worried about her and everyone, including my friends, expect me to comfort her and such but what about me. I feel worse when she's around but everyone is pressureing me to help her. I have other children to think about but when she's around I just want to leave. I dont know what to do about this, hope someone out there has some comforting thoughts.

GustJohn GustJohn
31-35, M
2 Responses Feb 15, 2009

I think you should sit her down and tell her how you feel rather than to let it go any farther. You would be miserable living with a lie than to try to reason with her how you really feel. She must be going somewhere and doing something. I would ask her where she has been and if she won[t answer than I would say to her maybe we should move on our seperate ways.

This is pretty tough....<br />
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I would think your wife is grieving quite badly and is trying to restore the family unit that was lost. You can ask for professional help, go to a support group, and/ or talk with her openly (and gently). Everybody grieves differently - some want company, some isolate. These tools will not only help her, but you as well. Sometimes we all need a rock to lean on.<br />
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I have faith that God will heal you and you will be comforted. John 14:18: "I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you." Rest assured that there are caring people here on EP that will help you listen to you vent and help you in your time of need.<br />
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Gods peace be with you! :-)