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I Can't Help Myself

It usually never crosses my mind to be dishonest. It wouldn't really matter anyway, because I am not a good liar. I tend to tell the truth even when it is uncomfortable for me. I don't think I do so in a rude way, but I suppose everyone takes things differently.

I think there are a lot of people who do not want to hear the truth. Maybe that is why I have never made friends easily. It often seems people don't want me around because I refuse to indulge them in their little fantasy land.

I had a close friend that I met when I was fourteen. I haven't seen her since I was probably 16 but we manage to keep erratic contact here and there. She moved across the country 7 years ago but we talk at the very least on our birthdays. She called me up a few years ago and admitted the only reason she hadn't called me in so long was because she knew I would tell her exactly what I thought about what was going on in her life at the time. I tell her the truth because I love her and care about her, and she knows that too. She only called me that day because she was ready then to face the truth. And I suspect had known all along what I was going to say.

I don't find lies appealing and I cannot tolerate dishonest people. I truly can't wrap my head around the desire to operate life shrouded in lies and deceit. Maybe that makes my company unappealing to others but honestly I don't really care.
Randomsomething Randomsomething 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 8, 2012

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Do you give unsolicited advice or do you only give advice when you are asked for it? being truthful is the only way to live, but you must learn to temper your truth with understanding. I have recently started living a life of rigorous honesty, but the person that I must be honest with first, is myself.... I love and try to live this quote from William Shakespeare...

This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Written almost 500 years ago and it still rings true today...

Heh, no I don't give much unsolicited advice, even when requested my advice usually goes ignored. Of course that's to be expected, the truth is often a downer. It isn't always easy but I try to be honest with myself, it is often difficult to distinguish the truth from what we wish it to be. I like the quote too, it's very fitting:)

Yes, when we lie to ourselves we dont even realize that we are lying to others. We think it's the truth.

You're right, most of the time it doesnt matter what we say, because know one is listening anyway. The truth has indeed set me free....But you, my dear - You cant handle the truth!" lol

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UXoNE14U_zM

lol, nice:)

Hmm.......Yup......Speaking truth always can make most people uncomfortable.........!And it is also very true that most people live in "fantasy land" ..<br />
Well......since you said you can't help being honest ,I can't see anything wrong with you.......because you had good intention in expressing your views.................but few people understand that........Well............I can give you one suggestion........ you now know how people react when you tell them the truth .......just be little thoughtful.........and ask yourself,<br />
1)"Anyways I speak truth,is it necessary that I speak truth at this moment with this person?"<br />
2)"Will it affect my relationship in a negative way (people avoiding you )with them( NOT everyone just in case of friends,well-wishers)?"<br />
If yes ,by all means try to keep yourself calm and speak truth ONLY if it is ABSOLUTELY necessary....<br />
If no,no worries................:)

Thanks, good criteria, I will def. keep it in mind:)

And the truth will set you free!

so try to make amends and perhaps talk about it?

Thanks, she's never offended, she knows me too well. She just knew I didn't approve of what she was doing, and knew if she called me she'd have be honest and tell me about it. She knows I will tell her the truth and not sugar coat it, you can only be surrounded by idiots and liars for so long before you need a good dose of honesty.