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Insecurity and My Wedding
May 8th, 2009
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don't know when it began. One minute I was a kid, shy but creative, and the next I was in junior high school and I hated myself. I was nerdy, awkward, and pimply. Then in high school, in my senior year, when I started actually hanging out with friends on a regular basis, I was in the shadow of much prettier girls. There was rejection, and drama, and I was horribly depressed.
I've since recovered from the overarching depression, but the flavor of it remains in the way I feel about my appearance. My situation is totally different. I'm in my mid-twenties, I get whistles on the street in the summer, and I'm engaged. But I'm still really insecure. I compare myself even to my closest friends and I hate that I do that. It puts a strain on our relationship for them to know that their beauty makes me feel bad. And with my wedding coming up, I'm terrified that they'll look better than me. I keep trying to think of ways to ensure they wear dresses that are nice, but not too nice, without seeming immature or mean. A lot of the time I squash my insecurity, but for my wedding, I just can't keep it down. I just feel like no matter what I do I'm going to feel less attractive. My only solution is to make them wear potato sacks, but I can't because then they'll feel badly about themselves and not have a good time, and I want everyone to have a good time. But that includes me! The closer it gets the more I'm freaking out about it, and no matter how many times my fiance tells me he'll think I'm the most beautiful, I know I won't feel that way. I really dread choosing their dresses because of this. I don't know what to do.
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  | Posted May 8th, 2009 at 11:56AM Relax and learn to love yourself. Please work on your self esteem. You may find positive affirmations helpful. You are the bride and the best guy chose you, his best girl. Do not put your bridesmaids in anything that you would not want your best friends/people closest to you to wear and feel nice in. Remember, if you choose jacked up dresses for them, you are always going to have to live with that decision because you have to look at your wedding photos. Your friends probably dont even think about you the way you do. They are just ecstatic that you chose them for the most important day of your life. Work on yourself, you are important and deserve it. Enjoy your day. Love Yourself.   |
 | Posted May 8th, 2009 at 10:52PM On that special day you are going to be the centre of attention, does anyone (other than the horny pervs) stare at the bridesmaids whilst the bride walks down the aisle. As soon as you walk into that room everyone one will turn their heads just to look at you, and the one person paying the most attention to your beauty is the one that really counts, the groom. He is the only one you should want to look pretty for and he is the one in the room who sees YOU as the most beautiful girl. I know insecurity is tough to deal with I think we all have been insecure at one time or another (boy I know I have) but you've got someone who adores you, he isn't marrying the bridesmaids or anyone else you may compare yourself to. You cannot walk through life comparing yourself to others, and I know this because I am exactly the same, you are always going to come across someone who will make you think you are inferior when the truth may be that plenty of people would prefer to be around you then around them. I hope you have a great day, a great marriage and a greater life and I also hope my words did something. p.s. It is very common for brides to be scared the maids will look better, so dont feel bad if the ugly colour somehow gets on their dresses, they only have to wear it once ;) |
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