Heart Broken

I wrote a small experience this morning. I am new to this site and I am still not sure that I understand it all.  I came here hoping to find new friends that could help me with what I am going through.

My husband of very many years doesn't love me anymore.  We have always had a tough life together. About 9 months ago things went so far south and had continued to go bad since then.  This past wkend he has decided that he wants a divorce.  My story is long and painful but I never dreamed that he would just stop loving me.  I am lost today, scared.  This man I love so much for so long, I don't know how to stop loving him.  He has been unfaithful to me so many times.  He took a job in another city, he got a new aptment and has started acting like a 20 yr old.  He has another women and it hurts so bad.  He has even gone as far has saying he is having an online affair with someone that he met on a site like this one.  I do not live in a city full of fun and laughter.  My friends limited and none of them have suffered this kind of betrayal.  I am reaching out......

Raylynn Raylynn
46-50, F
5 Responses Jun 30, 2009

Your husband's cheating and wayward ways have nothing to do with you. There is NOTHING wrong with you, he is the one with a problem, mid-life crisis they say. I am going through a similar problem, he has not yet mentioned divorce but he seems to have lost interest in me. He has online affairs, gets lovey-covey emails from girls and sometimes pretends he is single!

its devastating when you know there is another women in your mans life you cant breath you cant eat you cant live like normal human being looks like he is threating you with a divorce let it be so why people get married to cheat on one another deep in your heart you know what you should do dont let your feelings decide for you use your head you know try to be different and make him feel he is cheated on than he will test his own medecine put make up dress up differently go out without telling him smile with your self when he is arround so he hate him self and wonder what is going wrong and trust me he will feel like a looser can you send your self flowers and say its from an old friend i dont know do something hope it will help good luck

Unfortunatly, I do not have any advise for you at this time. I will suggest that you are honest with yourself about the whole situation. Things will get better. Just keep your head held up. Good luck and welcome to the site. I have found that there are many people here that have gone threw simular situations at one time or another during their life. Hang in there.

Thank you.

I'm sorry you have to go through that. Welcome to the site, sorry it has to be under these circumstances, but there are a lot of helpful people here who have experienced similar things.