The other day I sucked it up and tried telling him again how unhappy I am what I need to make it better. I'm not asking for anything life changing for him. I'd like him to tell me that he loves me, I'd like him to share things with me besides his day at work, I've asked for a vacation together (he goes at least 4x a year without me. It's been 4 years since we took a vacation together), I have asked that every now and again for him to touch me (pat on the back, a hug, a kiss). His reply? "I don't know what you want from me" The next day he took me to dinner and actually put his arm around me. That was 3 weeks ago. What's happened since you ask. He took 2 mini-vacations with "the guys".