So Sad

My husband has not touched me in years. He tells me he loves me buys me flowers etc. will not discuss separation,marriage counseling no hug no kiss EVER. He's not cheating he's always with me. He has no physical problems. I wish he was cheating then I would know WHY any one else in the same boat?
Ninav Ninav
4 Responses Nov 29, 2012

Not sure if you're still in the same boat but if so, I'm right there with you. I haven't had sex in 4 years. My husband ont even sleep in our bed. He doesn't take care of himself and at his point, I am not sexually attracted to him in the least bit. I hate feeling so lonely and disconnected. He claims he is not cheating either.

My husband and I haven't slept together in about 7 months. He says its stress and mostly with and about me. He says he loves me etc., but I don't feel it. Maybe counseling? If you find the answer, I'd love to hear! I'm sorry you are going through this, I know it is hurtful and really upsetting..

It is the same for me but with my wife -- maybe worse. Verbally she runs hot and cold but we are never together, no kisses, no hugs, no sex, nothing -- it feels strange. When we were struggling, we could not get enough of each other. Now that I am "successful", we are definitely drifting apart -- we speak less and less. I suggested counseling but that was a non-starter. I can remember when we were together multiple times a day -- we could not get enough of each other. I do not believe she is cheating either (I could be wrong) -- but she just loss all interest -- we hardly speak. If you find the secret to fixing a bad marriage, please let me know. The sad thing is I believe it is our children that truly suffer.

His refusal to be intimate with you does makes one ponder. I wish you guys can talk about it soon.