Peace In My Relationship

I dont even know if this is a complicated relationship. I already know the answer, but I need a second opinion. I'm in a relationship with a man for a little over 2 years. Just a few weeks ago I found out that his son doesnt even know that he has a girlfriend. When I confronted him about it, he denied that that was true. He says that his children who are adults ranging from 19-22yrs old (2 kids), does not want to meet me right now and are in denial refusing to believe that he has moved on with another woman (me). I dont know if I should believe him. After that incident, he has been really distant and just this week decided that he just wants to be "friends with benefits" with no strings attached. When I said that I'm for that, he tells me that me agreeing to just friends open the gate to me finding another. I don't understand, he has the same option. Now he tells me that he doesnt want to be friends anymore because he know I will end up with someone else and he doesnt want to risk being hurt. Should I just call it quits with him and risk being lonely again ..??
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3 Responses Jul 18, 2010

Sounds like he is telling you it is over and you are not listening.

Hi, i just think that "friends with benefits" is not good at all. Why not be just lovers? <br />
If he really loves you, he wouldn't let you go no matter what. I think you deserve someone better.<br />
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I'm just posting my opinion. Still your choice. I hope everything will turn out good for you.

I've been in a similar situation. In your case it was his decision to "just be friends" and i know its hard but that should mean no sex for him then. He suggests you be open to find another, then he says that will bother him? But it was his idea in the first place, and if you being with someone else would bother him, he's not over you yet. So think about how you really feel about him, if you love him, try having a talk with him and figure out how he really feels and go from there.