Still Waiting

I'm probably the most pathetic person here. I'm 20 years old, I haven't even been married a month, and I can barely handle being long distance anymore. I've know my husband for roughly 7 years, we've been together for 5 and 1/2 years, and married since December of 2011. I'm a new Navy wife who is still finishing my degree in college. My husband is currently stationed 2 hours away but will be heading out to his next duty station in California. We see each other when we can, just like we always have. I thought this wouldn't be so bad. I've been doing this long distance thing. Yeah, I couldn't be more wrong. I'm miserable. I guess that's the simplest way to put it. I know the biggest reason it's getting to me is because I'm on my winter break and have nothing to do. Despite this, I can't help but wonder if things will get any better. The soonest will probably be this summer, but it will be dependent on when I graduate from college and can move out with him. Can I possibly drag myself from day to day for this long?
ardenthorn ardenthorn
18-21, F
2 Responses Jan 10, 2012

Im too waiting for my husband to come home. Consider yourself very lucky as my husband lives in a country and they wont let him leave the country without a visa. :( and its very difficult to get through immigration ...

I know your post was a little while ago but I just came across this. I feel your pain! A little over a year after my husband and I started dating, I started college in Chicago (we're from DC) and he enlisted in the Air Force. That was over 2 years ago... there's no denying that it SUCKS! So trust me, I know what you're going through exactly. Since basic and tech school in San Antonio, he's been stationed in Montana. Montana! About as far in the middle of nowhere as possible! (Not to mention crazy expensive to fly in and out of...) We got engaged last fall, decided on a big wedding back home after I graduate (aiming for a June 2013 wedding), had a big ol' engagement party and everything, and later decided to get legally married ahead of time (2 months ago, a year and a half before the "wedding wedding"). I'm sure you can understand our reasoning for doing so, being a military wife yourself. :) I am really glad we did it. It has eased a lot of the strain and allowed for us to see each other much more often and easily. Aside from the logistical and financial perks, it's just been a great feeling being married finally.<br />
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I know exactly what you mean. It is so tough sometimes. As hard as it is, and as tempting as it is to drop it all and go be with our husbands, we need to keep the bigger picture in mind. Getting through college and graduating is just something we have to do right now. It will be so worth it when it's over and you get to move out to be with him! If you were to give up and move before you graduate, you would probably regret it later, and resent him for it. Sure, you could always finish later, but the best thing to do is hold tight and do what you need to do for now. You have all the time in the world to be together, uninterrupted, and start the rest of your lives together. At least that's what I keep telling myself! :) Just stay busy, get through school, and we'll be with our husbands before we know it!

Ah, if only "before I know it" would come sooner. lol. We are slowly inching closer to our move to California, but that also means that I will soon have to separate from him for two months (which includes him missing my college graduation). While things are amazing when we are together, I'm so ready to finish this distance thing. All I can think about is our future place and what life will be like when we aren't just seeing each other every other weekend.

For our wedding, we had to move everything up. We weren't supposed to be married until this coming summer (and even that was not our original date) but then found out about our orders for California in August of 2011. Our year of wedding planning turned into only a few months. We are both devoutly Catholic so it was very important to us that we could not just have a civil ceremony. As much as it was rushed, it was amazing and I wouldn't take it back.

I wish you both the best and hope you have an amazing marriage despite whatever the military may throw your way.