I Am In a Long Distance Relationship
My boyfriend and I met over Facebook. Now, I know what you're probably thinking, "What if he's a forty year old pervert? He could be lying to you! You never know what goes on when you're not there!" etc, etc. We have some mutual friends that we both know in person, so I knew he was a good guy from the start.
We've been going out for a little over three months, not to mention the solid friendship we made before confessing to each other. Now, the first two months were absolutely amazing, I could tell him anything, he was never judgmental, kept secrets well, and was always there for me. That is, up until these past couple weeks.
He got a job this summer to start saving up for a plane ticket as well as a camera for his laptop so we could video chat, meaning he's gonna be busy. At first, yeah, we wouldn't talk as much, and I understood that. Although, if we couldn't talk anytime during the day, he'd either send me a message saying goodnight, or one the next morning to greet me, let me know he was thinking about me. Lately though, it started turning into five days at a time when he wouldn't send me one message. At first, I thought, "Ah, he must be really busy, I shouldn't bother him." Soon, I started noticing how he'd have conversations with his friends over Facebook though. Knowing he wasn't busy at that moment, I messaged him saying I hope he's doing okay and other things. Guess what? I was ignored. The first time, it kind of hurt, wondering why I was being ignored while he talked to his other friends and not me, but I shrugged it off. The third time this happened though, my heart started to really ache. Why are you ignoring me? Are you getting bored of me? Were you lying when you said you loved me?
Now, I'm scared. I don't wanna tell him all this 'cause I don't wanna seem clingy, seem like I don't want him talking to anyone else but me. I feel like we're growing apart though! I feel like I'm slowly slipping away from something that's really important to me! I know I may sound dramatic and I'm blowing things out of proportions, but the thought of us breaking up keeps eating away at me. I don't know what to do about it, I just don't want to lose him before we even meet in person. If any of you guys who understand my situation have any advice for me, I'll gladly take it. I now know one of the worst feelings in the world is to be ignored by someone you love.
We've been going out for a little over three months, not to mention the solid friendship we made before confessing to each other. Now, the first two months were absolutely amazing, I could tell him anything, he was never judgmental, kept secrets well, and was always there for me. That is, up until these past couple weeks.
He got a job this summer to start saving up for a plane ticket as well as a camera for his laptop so we could video chat, meaning he's gonna be busy. At first, yeah, we wouldn't talk as much, and I understood that. Although, if we couldn't talk anytime during the day, he'd either send me a message saying goodnight, or one the next morning to greet me, let me know he was thinking about me. Lately though, it started turning into five days at a time when he wouldn't send me one message. At first, I thought, "Ah, he must be really busy, I shouldn't bother him." Soon, I started noticing how he'd have conversations with his friends over Facebook though. Knowing he wasn't busy at that moment, I messaged him saying I hope he's doing okay and other things. Guess what? I was ignored. The first time, it kind of hurt, wondering why I was being ignored while he talked to his other friends and not me, but I shrugged it off. The third time this happened though, my heart started to really ache. Why are you ignoring me? Are you getting bored of me? Were you lying when you said you loved me?
Now, I'm scared. I don't wanna tell him all this 'cause I don't wanna seem clingy, seem like I don't want him talking to anyone else but me. I feel like we're growing apart though! I feel like I'm slowly slipping away from something that's really important to me! I know I may sound dramatic and I'm blowing things out of proportions, but the thought of us breaking up keeps eating away at me. I don't know what to do about it, I just don't want to lose him before we even meet in person. If any of you guys who understand my situation have any advice for me, I'll gladly take it. I now know one of the worst feelings in the world is to be ignored by someone you love.