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I Am In a Long Distance Relationship

Long Distance...........it Gets Old

By: circleofforce
Written on August 31st, 2012
I met my soulmate right here on EP. I have read about and heard about people that fall in love online and I have also heard the horror stories. I can tell you that I knew my lady in previous lives and was so happy to finally find her in this one. The first time we saw each other there was no uneasy-ness or uncomfortably. We were like two people that had been separated but finally found each other. We have so many positives. But the distance of almost 800 miles is a torture. She has her job i have my job. We both are pretty well tied down to the cities where we live. The Good thing is that in January we have worked it out that we will finally be together. Really though, the only good thing about being separated like we are is the we find out just how true our love and commitment really is. We find out what we are made of and we are most definitely stronger individually as well as together. But I just hate the distance. It doesn't matter if you separated by 10 miles or 100 miles. If the situation prevents us from being together, it becomes our own private hell. I do believe that there is a hidden lesson in this somewhere but I'm not enjoying it. I was looking at some of my stories and some of hers and realized how much we really have changed from what we were when we met some 16 months ago. Life and it's experiences, adventures and lessons are so intricate, but so simple at the same time. We both will both be so happy when we are finally together. I just wish there were a way to rush it all up.









By: circleofforce
Age: 51-55 , Male
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    charles849
    charles849

    A very good description of what it is like

    3 days ago
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    Warmvanillasugar
    Warmvanillasugar

    Wow.... Never really thought about it until I read this.... Opened my eyes..
    Thank you

    3 days ago
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      circleofforce
      circleofforce

      It was and still proves to be a very eye opening experience. I am still convinced that a long distance relationship can work. But that It takes both people working at it and an unending commitment for each other.

      2 days ago
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    Mysticrose59
    Mysticrose59

    Good story :) I like it :)

    4 days ago
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    1littlerose
    1littlerose

    I once read that when you find a true friend you found a treasure . Guard your relationship with love, honor and respect for each other. You have a special girl....

    5 days ago
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      circleofforce
      circleofforce

      Yes I really really do!

      2 days ago
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    sarasay38
    sarasay38

    Thanks for sharing your story. My LDR is similar I feel that I have meet my soul mate. We have been together for a year. We both love each other very much but it just feels like a cloud on me each day. We are almost 3000ml apart and I neither of us can make a move to be with each other at this time because of our kids.

    I really understand your feelings I have been thinking about ended our relationship
    too but I keep holding on because I believe he is the one.
    Good Luck to you!

    Jun 7
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    neuilly
    neuilly

    We are in different countries and 3,200 miles apart, and so yes the hurdles that we are having to jump over keep getting higher and higher. We are still determined, to be together, but we could sure use a few breaks going our way. to help us make this happen.

    Jun 7
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      circleofforce
      circleofforce

      I can't tell you just how much that I want you guys to succeed, to be happy and be together. I didn't learn until late in life what an incredibly powerful, living, breathing entity love is. But I can without a doubt, tell you that true love, the kind that is so deep inside of you, to the point where it is a permanent part of your soul, never to be taken away, is by far the most powerful thing in the Universe. I now have a glimpse, a faint distant glimmer, a tiny bit of understanding as to what it means that God is pure love. The love that he is, is the greatest power of all powers. It isn't his faith, It isn't his hope. it is his love and Love itself that can literally change the tides of time and space and the universe.

      But I'll tell this also, It is the worst hurt ever when it doesn't work out. Best of luck!! And I mean that with all of my heart.

      Jun 7
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      neuilly
      neuilly

      thank you, and i know where your are coming from..because as you obviously do know, love is far more than just a word, it is emotion, and a prayer all at once.

      Jun 7
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      circleofforce
      circleofforce

      And a commitment, through thick and thin....At least that's how I see it.

      Jun 8
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      neuilly
      neuilly

      Yes, that is very true.

      Jun 8
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    streets718
    streets718

    I HAPPY FOR YOU, AND YOU MEET HERE, WOW SO COOL,

    Jun 7
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    circleofforce
    circleofforce

    Update: I'm still in love with this person. But we have decided that we need to separate. We Skyped for the first time today since I saw her a couple of months ago on one of our many getaways. We both concluded that the problems really were not there when we were together. It's that long distance and the separation that takes it toll. One cannot imagine all of the things that play into having a long distance relationship. It's tough, and we were once super dooper strong. The love is still there. It is a shame, a tragedy, to say the least. But, that is just my take on it.

    Maybe she will come here sometime and give us hers.

    Jun 4
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    MorningBreeze
    MorningBreeze

    Blessed be! You have just enlightened, encouraged me and ... made me *smile* really big. Cool!

    Jun 3
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      MorningBreeze
      MorningBreeze

      ohhh... I related totally to your story here ;)

      Jun 3
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    prncfan1
    prncfan1

    I believe that if I could have gone there or he could have come here and that we had made that decision within the first 12 months there is a possibility that we would still be together, and then again maybe not. It's brutal to still have two very separate lives, and to fill idle time with other things and other people. The loneliness is overwhelming. I did it for much longer. The financial burdens didn't help. You run the possibility of losing the initial love you found. It is painful. One has to make a big sacrifice and uproot themselves from all that they know and love and it is a huge gamble. I am trying hard not to regret having found and having lost the love of my life with only 600 miles between us. I pray that you two keep it together until you can be together. Half of the battle if finding love, the rest is maintaining and believing that you will do everything in your power to be together. I hope that love wins in your case.

    Jan 20
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    gatasucia
    gatasucia

    It certainly does get old, especially the more you move past the 12 month mark. Not being able to spend the holidays with him was particularly difficult, and to add to that I lost my grandmother who too lived in another country. Not a good combination, as my anxiety level reached heights I'd never experienced before, and out of a fear of losing sight of myself, my emotions and my sanity, I decided I needed to take a break. I needed to remove myself from having any contact with him in order to think about things and take stock. The first two days I felt liberated, like a heavy burden had been lifted off my shoulders. But as the days pass, I miss him more and more. It's only been 5 days since I last exchanged any communication and yet I feel like I need more time to straighten my head out. I am so conflicted.

    Jan 20
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    reed067
    reed067

    I was 14 hours from the women I'm seeing now. I moved closer to my mom for a year because of her health. We are 8 hours apart now it doesn't sound like much but with her working two jobs & myself trying to help my mom & work we're always on the phone as much as possible. I am only going to be here for a year & then I am moving in with her. We have talking about everything to marrige to goals in life. It's hard but if the two of you really love each other you can make it even when things get rough.

    Nov 20, 2012
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    Inferis
    Inferis

    Hold on to the positive views, Sir... The fixating on the distance will gnaw at ye. I am separated from my love by some 6700 odd miles, and it drains my positivity every day. But I also completely agree with you; it certainly tests the mettle of your relationship in keeping it going over such vast distances. Hearing her voice and the knowledge that one day we WILL be together makes it all worth it. I am extremely happy that you two will be together soon, and I wish ye both all the best! Your story gives me hope! Much respect.

    Sep 19, 2012
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    OnceThereWasAGirl
    OnceThereWasAGirl

    I am happy and jealous all at the same time. Yesterday was a year and a half with my sweetie, who I met online as well. Someday soon, we will work it out where distance is no longer a problem and we can live together. Congrats and best wishes for the two of you. Hearing stories like yours, gives me so much hope.

    Sep 19, 2012
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    charm50
    charm50

    Happy for you two! I know that distance can kill all feelings but you managed and I am very glad. I hope that I will be able too. Wishing you happiness!

    Sep 15, 2012
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      circleofforce
      circleofforce

      I am definetly hoping and pulling for you!!

      Sep 16, 2012
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    HEER74
    HEER74

    I agree with you and yes distance is painful

    Thank God you are both committed to each other and have lasted for so long.

    I'm struggling right now with a break up and distance and problems have a lot to do with it, men are very impatient and not all are as strong as you are.

    I'm happy for you two and I hope my relationship is just going through a hiccup and we can finally be together.

    Aug 31, 2012
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      circleofforce
      circleofforce

      OMG! Me Strong?? LOL .. what an illusion I wish.. trust me, there is no pillar of strength here with me! I get down, she gets down. I mean we can work our collective ***** off and it make the time pass quicker. Bu we are both in the entertainment business. Just different areas of it. that being the case, we still kind of bump around in the areas and intern it makes me wonder what she is doing and vise versa. I wonder if I were a welder and she were an accountant if that would make it easier. Still there is no substitute for my Angel Baby and there will be no peace as far as that goes until I see her again.. which will be in about 3 weeks! YAY!!

      Sep 16, 2012
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    TheWanderingSupertramp
    TheWanderingSupertramp

    Yeah I can definatly relate. It's not easy that's for sure...

    Aug 31, 2012
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