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More Than 4,000 Miles...

I never intended to be in a long distance relationship yet, here I am. More than 4,000 miles away from the man I love and want to spend my life with.

If I had my say, we would be an easy car ride apart. We'd be able to go for ice cream on a moment's notice, lie in the grass and star gaze at night, and plan some fun mini-trips. I wouldn't have to hang onto my phone so we can text. I wouldn't have to check my e-mail all the time and I wouldn't have to cling to skype dates and conversations. If I had it my way, the man I love would be right by me...but I don't have my way.

The reality is that I am more than 4,000 miles away from the one I love with all my heart; technically in the same country but it doesn't feel like it. There's a three hour time difference, which doesn't sound too bad but does place a strain with different work schedules. The reality is knowing that visits will be months apart and that the earliest we could be together is be a little more than a year from now. Knowing the cost of plane tickets, budgeting so we can afford to visit each other and trying to figure out a schedule for when we can. Why do we do this?

We do this because we know that we're each other's true love/soul mates. We're not in the perfect situation, but it has helped us grow and we are becoming closer than ever before. We support each other and understand that we have to keep the distance for awhile so that we can each accomplish what we need to. We trust each other to stay committed, to keep working on our relationship, and to never lose faith in one another. The distance isn’t easy and there are sacrifices to be made but to be without the one I love; that would be the worst thing ever. And in a way, I think we’re lucky. We talk more than most couples I know, we can talk for hours about anything and everything, and we’re proving that no matter what we will stick together and stay in love.
The distance won’t last forever. One day these 4,000 miles, 3 hour time difference, and a billion texts a month will be something of the past; but our love will always be something of the present and the future.
HeavenlyLove12 HeavenlyLove12 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 12, 2012

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I am in a one year long distance relationship and the distance is really tough but reading this made me realize that he's worth it and I cant be without him... so thank you

I'm glad I could help. We all have our struggles with this kind of relationship so we have to keep in mind why we're doing it and that the other person is worth it! I wish you luck with your relationship :)

Hey.. i cant pretend to know exactly how you feel but the girl i love lives literally on the opposite end of the world, i've been madly in love with her for the past 4 years and we've had our fair share of struggles.. thing is, we've never met... i'm hoping to go stay with her for 3 months some time next year, here's hoping <3

I believe that the best kinds of love happen when you truly get to know the person and don't place emphasis on other things. I hope you do get to go stay with her next year and that it all works out for you.

I'm so happy for you! My LDR ended over a month ago and I'm having a hard time with closure because we're so far away. I feel like I lost the best relationship of my life mostly due to economical reasons and it feels like a bad dream. I really hope that yours is a success story. I know its a brave person who can accept being apart and still hold onto the relationship.

thank you. I'm sorry that your relationship ended, I hope that you're able to find closure and you never know what might happen.

thanks.......I think it ended for a reason and lucky for me we will always share a special friendship, hopefully that lasts!

Thats a beautiful and really shows true love. I wish you luck...We have bit same situation. He was 4,000miles away and we live in different country which sucks. I don't even know if I'll see him personally coz its kinda impossible. Every night I cry for this same damn reason that theres 50-50 chance of seeing each other. I love him and he loves me back but don't know if this would be enough to keep our relationship going...

thank you for the luck, I wish you luck as well. These kinds of relationships are hard and it takes a lot of strength and commitment to make it through them. Try to stay as positive as possible and remember why you're doing this when times get rough. I believe that if two people really love each other, anything is possible :)