But, let's not quibble over details. I had a couple of relationships budding, actually contemplating marriage with two women, trying to decide, all by phone and email. I mailed one lady a tape of me reading poetry and singing with musical background. She was a gospel recording artist on the side. I thought it would be great. She had the same degrees that I did, played guitar as I had, loved to sing in her church as I do. We had so much in common. I bought a plane ticket to go see her and she wanted to wait, to lose 20 pounds first. When she told me her weight, which was normal, I wondered how insecure can she be. Then she admitted that she wasn't yet divorced from the loser she'd married who'd drained her bank account and then left her for a new girl friend. The plot began to thicken. Needless to say, I still regret not only losing out on the plane fare but not meeting her to see if in person she was as interesting as I'd thought. I may have poor judgement.