Intercontinental Love
Posted November 15th, 2008 at 3:37PM
I've read lots of stories in this group and I know how difficult it is to be in love with someone who is far away.
I know it by myself because I'm also in such a relationship.
I met my boyfriend here on EP. It was the best thing which could happen. I had felt very lonely in this world and I had been in need of a soulmate who would understand me, who could console me when I cry and who would be able to make me smile.
One day I was reading some stories when I ran into a group where Aalekh had a story that he is a medical college dropout now studying engineering. That sparked my interest because medicine and engineering are pretty different branches. So I posted a comment.... and this was the beginning... we started to talk and it increased to love.
We love each other so much that sometimes we can't believe how it is possible... The only thing which makes our love so hard is that hated distance... 4970km... Europe and Asia....
We have never met yet, and maybe we will not be able to meet for next 3 years, maybe more and maybe never.... Even that this thought always make me really sad, I try to think in positive way. We must enjoy moments we are together (online) , we see each other's faces, we can hear voice of beloved person.
The most important thing is to build a relationship with a person you can completely trust. This is our case, too. We share everything, every feeling, every thought, every dream and idea, we help each other in difficult and tough situations. We tease each other a lot, we always try to make lover smile...
Maybe someone might ask why we can't meet.... there are lots of reasons, beginning with distance, going through studies and money, ending with religion, nationality, family and traditions.
There is not any problem from my side, my parents like Aalekh a lot, always ask me how he is, what he is doing.... but on Aalekh's side it's not so easy. We are secret lovers... there are few moments when I think about our relationship... and I pray and wish that his family get to know me and that they will not have ANY problem with the matter I'm from "different world", different culture... but....
The biggest wish I've ever had and which I will never give up is.. to be with my angel, with Aalekh.
I'm not going to write about... how terribly we miss a touch, a kiss.... and all this physical things because everyone who belongs to this experience group already knows it.
And those who have never experienced long-distance relationship with a difficult background like our is, can't understand it... maybe can imagine at least a bit of what we must go through if we want to live life together.
I wish the best luck to all couples who are missing their beloved due to distance.
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oh hunny,i know your pain,although,thankgod i dont have cultural or religeous barriers to contend with.immigration stopped our first attempt at meeting,and ruined my lovers chances at visiting me.
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ah, yea.. this is my biggest fear... because it's almost impossible for him to go against his family and tradition.... :(
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nice story sweety........... but i am positive person and i feel that one day we will meet and becomes each others forever.
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I wish it.... I need to be with you.
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yes, there are many, but we will blow them out, hehehe.
and.. I'm really happy my parents like Aalekh and dont have any prob that I love him so much. Sometimes my mom says things which I even dont expect... like.. you two would be soo happy here.. or starts talking about my MARRIAGE???: haha.. it's sooo cute.. but after all she tells.. but at first you have to finish studies, lol ;) -
hahahaha... you will have to hear it until you will bring him there, :P
and he will have to "survive" your moms questions.. oh yeah. i can imagine it.. *laughing* -
ahahahahhaa.. thats cuuute, lmao.. ehehehe...
your mom is a little spy :P -
I was in a long distance relationship for a while.
We're getting married next month. : ) -
Long distance relationship does work. I meet my wife because of a long distance insurance misunderstanding. We have been married now 21 years. Yes it can work. It does take a lot of letters though. -
I know BG, everyone knows it, and I m keeping my fingers crossed for you both!!!
Best luck, I wish we will end up like you two. :) -
Maybe you forgot... but i'm soooo happy for Mello and BG!
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Im a little late to join this one I guess, but you know, love is an amazing thing. I am also involved in intercontinental relationship, working on 10 months now. He has already asked me to marry him. 10,000 + miles between us! Never lose hope. We have no idea how long it will be until we can be together, but we know we will. When you love someone, then your heart finds a way.
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we've been together also for 10months and aslo my love asked me to marry him and I replied that he's the only one I wanna live with so it's sure that i will marry him. But it will take a few years.. it will take +- three years to meet... but we will see.. the only thing we know is that we wanna be together.
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What if ur partner betrays u?? What if..
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yeah... ... it can happen.. but it depends on your partner.. and we have relationship that many "LDR people" envy... so I know my partner will not betray me because he is doing all to be with me... (and now I dont want it to look that im an idealist and dreamer...)
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What if? This is no different than if my partner lived here in the same town with me in that respect. It doesn't have to be long distance for things to take a bad turn!! Every day I put my heart out there to him, and he is doing the same for me. Nobody said that loves comes without a price. Sometimes that price is betrayal and hurt.
I personally refuse to let my mind wander there. He has given me NO reason to doubt.
If YOU have a reason to doubt, that is different. This is like any relationship in life, when you love and open yourself up and become vulnerable, because this is what is necessary to share love with another, sometimes you get hurt. You have a right to get pissed. One day at a time.
Now is a good time to open those lines of communication. Full open. -
Nightowlinak.... you are right... thanks for the comment.. I agree with all you have said. :)
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You see bublina, my story was similar to urs. Only difference being is that, my love gave up finally on me and decided to move on with someone else. I had complete faith and trust in my relationship and ppl were really 'J' about us. It was rock solid but what happens after 8 months of strong bond is... a 'dead-end'. My soon to become "real" love got burried virtually.. in a matter of days. I have no regrets though. I have learnt so many lessons which i will remember thru rest of my life. But let me tell u guys, LDR is awesome. The experience and the thrill of meeting someone u haven;t seen and dreaming about her is really awesome. It's like falling in love twice first virtually and then in reality.
Have FUN!!!
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:) i'm sorry it didnt end up well for you, but I'm glad you take it like something positive in your life. It'll be a year I've been with my boyfriend after 2 months and I hope we'll stay together and will live together after some time.
In LDR I learnt how to share my feelings and emotionos with someone so close to me.... I had a problem with it before. Now trust and honesty (but also worries about each other) are the base of our relationship. :) -
I'm in LDR with different cultural & religion back ground. One of us is in Asia the other in Europe. I work sometimes as a guide for tourist group & this how we met. We just spent a week, I was so against to start this relationship cuz in few days he'll be gone & we would never meet again. What I remember that he really insist cuz he felt I loved him but I'm just scared of the distance. And yes I didn't believe that we ever met each other. Now after being together for 1 year & 9 months, I'm glad I stayed in this relationship cuz we managed to meet 3 times. He came to visit me twice cuz it's easier for him to have visa and I went once which it was a lot of hard work cuz it's next to impossible to me to have visa, I spent 3 months on paper work, talking with everyone can help me & waiting. It was really annoying experience, I lost 8 kg from all this, heheh! But finally I got visa for one month. And now I'm preparing for travelling again not to his country but next to it so I I can visit him & spend few days together.
What I want to say that you need to believe that you r gonna meet each other, it's difficult I do know that but it's really important even if it's just for a week.
I wish you all the luck & hope you two meet soon.
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Fiona, thank you for supportive comment... I'm sorry for that paper work, but with visa there are always troubles.... I believe we;ll meet and things will work out... because we really love each other.... those who know us, know it very well . :)
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Wonderful story I hope everything turnes out for you both. Love conquers all no matter the religion or race.
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Thank you everton for nice comment :) It's been a year so far we are together .. :) and I hope we will be together more and more.. and at the same place :)
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i can just say bigger distance to cross for me and bigger cultural difference! Some days i just wake up feeling blank, do you too?
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sure I do... all of us have sucha feelings Floyd...
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Friend, thank you for your concern, but I have known him for more than a year, I've seen his daily routines, I know how he will act in this or that situation. I can read his face... We are a bit different than others... we are completely honest. Trust is base of our relationship.
I know what you meant in your comment, but... -
friend totalk... is right..... but in our case its absolutely diferemt. We remain online on skype whole day.. watching and talking to each other all the time. So both of us know each others every facial ex
pression and every reactions very clearly. So no need to be worried. -
:) yes yes :)
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I absolutely love your story, in some ways I can relate, and it sounds like this relationship is strong enough to bring the two of you together. GOOD LUCK!!! :D
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Thank you HollywoodBelle for your kind comment :)
Hope that everytihng will go well and we will be ttogether soon :) -
yesssssss
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