I Was In a Very Silly Long Distance Relationship!

L ast year, I was involved in a very silly long distance relationship. Now normally, "silly" is the last word you would (and should) use to describe a long distance relationship. This is because such a relationship usually shows the devotion of two people to each other and their dedication to make things work over a long distance. However my relationship was founded mostly on dreams and involved constantly ignoring reality! On my travels I met a guy - and at the time, I believing in love at first sight, mistakenly thought I was in love with him. After six weeks, he proposed, and I was elated and said yes (my family were so far from happy about the whole thing!). One problem (and there were many!) was that he lived in Africa and was not granted a visa to the UK, so I had to wait until the next summer to go and see him. Not an issue, I thought - because, obviously love conquers all! I stayed engaged to him for a year. Perhaps he should have known better - I was 19 and he was in his thirties! This too, was an issue for my poor family, who were also not keen on the fact that we were of different religions. I saw him last summer. He wasn't the same as the way he had been in my head (personality-wise, rather than looks-wise) and suddenly I realised I WASN'T in love with him, and he, probably wasn't in love with me! So I ended it... I think I was in love with the idea of having this great romance with some handsome, exotic stranger. Even though I only broke up with him last summer, I think I have changed (and hopefully matured!) a lot since I first met him. I am still an impulsive person, but would never just jump into getting engaged like that again! I now prefer to actually get to know people first! My mother, for one, is most relieved about this. :)