The Toughest Decision Ever

    i met him 2 years ago, and we clicked instantly... we are in love, deeply in love, we were waiting for the right conditions for us to meet, and it looks like we've waited for too long... he just got diagnosed with a late stage lung cancer that has metastasized to his brain already ... several tumors in brain, several in other parts of the body and a big one in the lungs... he is dying with such a short time left, and im losing him... i cant imagine a world without him anymore.. so i remain with the decision, a tough one...but i have to decide..he is my very first love, it is not fair and cruel for him to die this young with something that ppl much much older usually going insane and im doing some insane thing...yet i cant see what else should i do that would feel so so so right as this does, i might lose everything, my career, family and even life but i dont care ...ill marry him.

odysa odysa 26-30, F 9 Responses Dec 22, 2009

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Oh my gosh. I almost shed a tear in hearing from your story. It's absolutely lovely and sad at the same time. I can just imagine the kind of pain you went through. I hope you get to love again, and to succeed. I know that's what he would have wanted for you to do. After all, he already has a special place in your heart:) My best wishes to u.

My deepest condolences to you. I pray for his soul & for you to find someone to love. God bless you!

My deepest condolences to you. I pray for his soul & for you to find someone to love. God bless you!

My deepest condolences to you. I pray for his soul & for you to find someone to love. God bless you!

my love passed away last thursday... I dont know what to do or think when im this is tearing my heart to parts...Im still in love with him... RIP , love

THANK YOU ... everyone, for the support. i travelled to where he is andspent a week before i returned. he broke the engagement. saying that he cannot do this to me. that he loves me so much he would never allow me to marry a dead man. i argued and tried but i couldnt bring myself to stress him about this when he has so much to deal with... i guess we can always be best friends...even though it breaks my heart eveyday not to be with him...every minute means that he is slipping away... but i dont know what to do

this is honestly so heartbreaking. if you guys love each other, why not be together? make the most of the time you have together and be grateful. make everyday count. dont give up on him. marry him and be with him and be happy together. theres a reason why you two met. and it definitely wasnt for nothing. i wish you two all the best !

Yes, you should marry him. You should also try and be with him, as soon as you can. I am so sorry. In some ways, your situation is worse than in "Love Story", which I found very upsetting on the only occasion I saw it.

I will hold you both in my thoughts and prayers.

Thats sad but your life would totally be like a movie. It reminds me of A Walk to Remember except its the guy who is dying not the girl.

Good luck to you!