I have been reading many, many posts in experiences labeled in some way with Domestic Discipline or DD in its title. The majority of these posts upset me because the women share experiences of what I consider to be very cruel, abusive, and more BDSM than DD. I have made some comments on some of the posts because I am truly saddened and worried that women are allowing men to obsessively control them and excessively abuse them and label it as love and DD. They tell me that that is what works for them and it is how they live a DD lifestyle. In one way, this makes me want to cry because nothing about DD is abusive. Having your husband beat you thousands of times and night after night for something as simple as not picking up some things laying around in the living room is abuse-plain and simple-there is no way around it. Discipline should NEVER harm and leave a woman in agony. Discipline is to make a point and keep a couple united and focused on what is best for them and their family. In another way, these posts make me very angry. Women refer to their husbands as Sir or their Owner or their Master. NO! Your husband is your loving life partner even in a DD relationship! He is not above you as a human. He is your equal as a human being and as your life partner. Yes, he is the one who makes final decisions after a two-way discussion, and he is the one who helps you to stay focused and keep your marriage and family a peaceful, loving unit because you cannot have two people fighting for control in any relationship. However, he is your husband, the love of your life, the man you chose to love forever not your owner! In a DD marriage, we wives have an identity and a voice. We are not pieces of dirt that our husbands step all over! We simply allow, trust, and know that in the end, our husbands will make the final decisions for the household based upon what was discussed and what is right for our family. As far as discipline goes, that only plays a part in a DD marriage when you forget that you have entrusted him to be the head of your home-not MASTER-and respect and love him enough to never "break" the unity of your marriage and the love you have for one another. If you forget that you're a part of a team and that your actions could truly break the bond and partnership you have formed together and worked so hard to keep together, then you must be reminded of the ultimate prize-a loving, happy family-and that reminder may take the form of discipline. It is done in a loving way and as a loving experience for both husband and wife. Communication must occur before and after the discipline because it is meant to create harmony not harm to a marriage. DD is centered around love not abuse and control!
LovingGal26 LovingGal26
51-55, F
3 Responses Aug 28, 2014

bdsm & DD are not mutually exclusive or inclusive nor does either HAVE to be male led!

I never said DD was only male led. I was sharing MY EXPERIENCE, thus I am on this site. I loathe BDSM, so no comment on that subject.


loath.....bdsm.....wow...... that is like saying i loath pizza.

Whatever floats your boat. We obviously disagree, so........

lmao.... i present logical points and you have no answer.... so you simply DENIE

what kinds? have you tried vegateriam pizza? or meat loverz ot DESERT PIZZA????

you CLAIM to be a CHRISTIAN..... yet all i see is a verry judgmental person ,running around trolling people for not holding to YOUR impossible standards! you are a SNOTTY little princes that needs aMAN to love you enough to be CONSISTANT with you, I have read many of your storys & replies.... you practice a poor excuse to what YOU claim to. you complained REPRTADLY about your husband NOT being consistsnt

You claim to loath my STANDARDS....but IMore closely hold to YOUR standards than YOU. lmao...

you may block me now... BECUSE you are sticking your head in the sand! I have discoverd what state you live in & will now post that for all to see! YOU LIVE IN THE STATE OF DENIAL!

hell look at your avatar! our avatars are extensions of our self image! ? rather than a pic of your self you IDENTIFY w a princes! an infantisied HELPLESS child like princes!

a sub human DOLL LIKE princes that is held to unattainable & unNATURAL standards.... It is aparrent that you INSTINCTUALY crave a strong man that CAN hold you to YOURstandards....funny thing is, is that you do this in the name of GOD& misquoat the bible to do it. you LOATH me and my practices but i hold to YOUR standards..... I am absolute. if a girl needs corrected it is done in a fair, loving,&:CONSISTANT manner! a girl submits to me ONLY out of love and RESPECT because she TRUSTS me MORE THAN HERSELF...

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i absolutely agree with you. Thanks for posting this, it needs to be said.

Ours is done in a very loving manner. I have a deep respect for my husband and want to show that at all times. I appreciate it when he reigns me back in with a raised eyebrow or a quick enough!!!! ;-)
We have a lot of fun and I do not feel that I am abused in any way. ;-)
I do not mind being spanked because it has brought much harmony to our relationship. ;-)
Ok...... During a spanking, I mind. Lol
Once it is done, the benefits are many for us. ;-)
Good luck in your new venture. ;-)

Thank you!