I Am In A Passionless Marriage

I met the man who is now my husband three years ago.  When we met, I had moved out of another relationship and I was happy to have someone in my life again.  We got married after dating for six months.  We now have a beautiful baby girl.  I can't exactly pinpoint where the problem is in our relationship but he no longer seems to have time for me.  He is not interested in sex (or is it in me) and I find this rather strange.  A few months ago, he was in an extra marital relationship but when I discovered and confronted him, he was apologetic and swore never to do it again.  I forgave him but recently I realised he is communicating with other women (and possibly meeting them).  I think this is the reason for lack of passion in our marriage.  I feel like walking out of this marriage but I am scared.  We no longer have sex, we never go out and he never wants to be seen in public with me.  I don't know what to do.  I love him but my love is not being reciprocated.  I am so hurt and feel unappreciated.  I am seven years older than him and it makes me feel that he could be wanting to relate with a younger woman although our age difference has not been a problem to him.  I don't know what to do because we've tried talking things out and he says nothing is wrong, and that he loves me.  However, he doesn't put his love 'into action'.  Its all so confusing.

involvemetoo involvemetoo
31-35, F
2 Responses Apr 23, 2010

What's confusing? Your husband is a serial cheater who is unwilling to change. Your choice is to stay with him and continue to be miserable or to leave him and create a different life for yourself.

Why are you scared of walking out? From what you wrote you are not happy where you are. What are the reasons you are staying in your loveless marriage? Do you think you are not worthy of a better relationship? Do you think that you may be better off alone for a while? What is this doing to your daughter? <br />
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Strength love and peace<br />
GNB<br />
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PS <br />
I wasn't trying to be mean or upset you... I just want you to be happy for you and your daughter.