My wife and I have been together for four years. We have had alot of fun and seem to be very attracted to each other. Sex is more of a priority for me than it is for her. It seems to have always been that way. I always initiate it. She usually, after me badgering her will get "into it". It seems like a system. I must get her off first then we see how exciting it goes from there. She has tried bondage with we and alternative sexual positions such as anal sex. I have an 8 yr old daughter from a prior marriage and we have a year and a half old together. It sounds great but I ALWAYS initiate everything and she goes along, sometimes gripping about it. I love sex with my wife and she has told me since we dated that her libido just isn't high especially now. She was very honest with me about her past experiences and seemed to be quite sexually provocative and carefree with a much higher libido. She would randomly hookup with guys, have sex it exciting places, and even was in a relationship with an employer. She obviously has had a sexual bravado in the past.  I take her out of town to nice hotels to change the scenery and get her in the mood.  She enjoys it but says that stuff like that is nice every once in a while.  I don't know how to handle it. She said this morning before I left that she feels I only married her for sex. The truth is sex is such an important part of marriage to me I just wish she felt the same way. She had a minor procedure 3 weeks ago requiring 2 weeks of pelvic rest. We are on week three and she is fine not having any sex and I am dying. She finds this selfish! I want to be sympathetic but it shows me it just isn't that important to her. I ask for foreplay and she gets put out by it. How do I help make it a priority for her and jumpstart her libido?
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Jan 22, 2013