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I Am In a Relationship With a Soldier

What To Expect After Basic Training ?

By: Cupcakesmoothie
Written on May 16th, 2011
OKAY so my boyfriend and i have been together for 4 years and he left may 3rd for basic training it's really hard for me because I was used to seeing him everyday , I just want to know if any of you have been through this and can tell me what's to come and if it makes the relationship better or worse when your forced to be apart ? my biggest fear is that he'll come back and not want to be with me or that his whole way of thinking is going to be extremely different , Im just so nervous, he tried to give me the address but he didnt have any time because the drill seagant wouldnt let them talk so im just gonna have to wait for his letters . If anyone could give me any more insite on what to expect i'd really appreciate that.
By: Cupcakesmoothie
Age: 22-25 , Female
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  • JULES410
    JULES410

    Hey i am totally on the same page as you. I am deathly afraid that he will not love me anymore either. I hope he doesnt change and i hope he still loves me as much as i love him.

    Comment above: Thanks for the insight this actually helped me out a lot right now. I am having my first official breakdown i am just missing him way too much right now and it hurst. I am just awaiting this first letter and then i know it will all be ok.

    Im here for anyone that needs anything. I know we all need a friend in this situation cus our friends really dont know whats going on or how to relate.

    May 17, 2011
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  • mireya7
    mireya7

    If anything he's going to love you more and want you more. Being away from the one you love is going to be tough on you, but its even tougher on him. He's living with a group of strangers and not allowed to talk to anyone on the outside. From my experience and with the other girls it makes them really appreciate what they have at home. You're the only thing he has thats not issued to him and he will appreciate that. You already have 4 years to hold on to and Im sure you'll have TUNS MORE!! Me and my bf were only together 4 months before he enlisted and we've grown stronger and stronger. Things will be ok and trust me basic will FLY BY. Just keep writing him when you get his address and continue to tell him how much you love and appreciate him and his decision.



    Letters might come slow but its not cause he's not thinking about you he's going to be really busy but once you get that first one they might come faster. After red phase you will get a call every Sunday. I know 2 minute calls sound like they suck but trust me its like winning the lottery and you will love them. If he seems distant dont think its you. Its just a tough enviornment so just try to stay positive and push through cause once he's out of it he will be back to himself. I know lots of people who say they go crazy and change but thats not true. If anything he'll just do things more precise but Im sure he'll be the same man he was when he left. By his last week of basic it will get easier and especially when he goes to AIT because he will be allowed to have his phone all the time. If you have any questions about what to expect or want to vent don't be afraid to message me. Id be glad to help you.



    Sorry thats long lol.

    May 16, 2011
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