Dear Civilian Girl

hey girls!!! Since i havent shared my story, I will state off the bat im madly in love with my soldier lol. he is my everything. =) but i couldnt wait to share this with you girls.. found this tonight when i was browsin and supposed to be doing my hw =P thought you ladies might like it! <3

**Warning**- its longggg lol

Dear civilian girl,

You complain that your boyfriend has worked late all week and have barely seen him.

-I look forward to the two weeks a year we spend together.

You complain because he doesn't call you enough.

-My heart is thankful for the 15 second phone call I got last Tuesday in the middle of the night!

You whine to your friends about how much you miss him already because he is on a two day trip with his parents.

-I won't see him for another 10 months!

You don't feel like making love tonight because you are too tired.

-We will stay up all night because we don't know when it will be the last time.

Your boyfriend belongs to you.

-Mine belongs to the government.

Your boyfriend is training for his game next weekend.

-My boyfriend is trained to kill.

It's just not practical for you to drive an hour to see him every weekend during school.

-He spends $700 dollars on a plane ticket just to see me 2 days!

You hate hanging up the phone when talking to him.

-My heart breaks because I won't talk to him for another 10 days.

You complain that he doesn't take enough time out of his life for you.

-My man has to get up in the middle of the night to talk with me because of the time difference. He doesn't complain.

Your man is in a bad mood from not sleeping much this week.

-My man ran 10 miles this morning at 4 in the morning and has a full day of
work ahead of him. He's lucky if he gets a few hours of sleep!

Your boyfriend can call in sick when he is tired or not feeling well.

-My man works no matter what!

You don't trust him so you follow him places to see if he is telling the truth.

-I have no choice but to trust him and even then I trust him with my life.

You don't like him talking so sexually with his friends.

-My boyfriend has to chant it in drills.

You check your phone, see you missed a call from him, and decide to call him back when you aren't so busy.

-I see a missed a call and cry, because I don't know when he can call again.

You might save a cute voice message from him.

-I save them all b/c it helps me to remember what his voice sounds like.

Being apart for a month to you seems daunting.

-A month apart for me is a wish that can't come true.

You wouldn't change schools to be close to him.

-I have to move to another country to be with him.

You have every part of him memorized.

-I study pictures so I don't forget what he looks like.

You take your time together for granted.

-We don't!

Your cell phone bill was high this month from talking too much.

-He pays 20 cents a minute to call me… when he CAN call.

You love that fancy necklace he bought you

-I refuse to take his dog tags off, and not a day goes by that I don't have them on...

You say you miss him.

-Times that by 20.

bucketgirl7 bucketgirl7
18-21, F
36 Responses Mar 9, 2009

I love this

So true!

So amazing and so true...

Spent 17 months deployed. Got back and the ***** was gone. Took my dog and my money. The latter of the two I miss.

My Marine just got deployed 2 days ago. And reading this made me teary eyed. This is our second deployment and never gets any easier. I saw a post on fb of some girl saying she's all bummed because her bf is going on a 2 week trip.. In which she will still be able to text and all him. I wanted to say something so bad, but decided not to. <br />
Simper Fi<br />
Oorah!

wow this is so true I cant believe that... this is my status on fb now

Wow thats so completly true..but sad though....reminds me of how hard it really is to be in love with a soldier. Thanks girl. Loved reading that!

This is wonderful...its all so true...I miss my better half...my best friend..my lover...I love you Brandon!!! (my Soldier) ;)

I feel the same way my boyfriend just deployed in June and I know its hard we all just have to stick together and stay strong

I have much respect for you 'army wives & girlfriends' however as a civilian wife, its not easy either...my hubby served one year in Iraq leaving behind our daughter and our son who was less than 1 year old...he is now serving in Egypt, his North Camp is located at el Gorah ... Sinai, approximately 25 kilometers from the Egyptian-Israeli border. ...and with all the recent trouble in Egypt the camp had no security and they bombed the police station only 30 kilometers from his camp....he was due to be deployed to Afghan ....so I count myself lucky he went to Egypt! Its not a contest and really we should all just hope our men get home safe ....civilian or otherwise! ...Mrs D!

Hooah ladies! Stay strong!

Brought tears to my eyes, its so true! mine goes to afganistan next week :( i have all this to come x

Yes, we go through a lot, but it's only because we were put into a situation that others were not. Just because civilian girlfriends don't understand our pain doesn't mean we have to be mean to them. It's like army wives being mean to army girlfriends. It's not very fair. They're lucky that they don't understand, and I wouldn't wish this life on anyone else. Stay strong, though, girls. Much love to all of you <3

WOW, so true... I'm an army fiancee and you do have to cherish every second with them because you don't know when you'll see them next... civvy girls don't realise how lucky they have it - but saying that I'm proud of my soldier, he melts my heart when I see him in Uniform... <3 xx

that is so true and no one knows how hard it is until you're going through it. right now im waiting for my soldier to call me, it's 1:45 am here, it's 10:15 am where he is, i refuse to go to sleep though, even though I have to be up to get ready for work at 6:30 am, but I can't go to sleep Im too scared Ill miss a call from my soldier

you know all of you girls are so right the civilian girls just dont get the military way of life. they ***** and complain becuase they dont et what they want from their men. and it sickens me. i read this through tears becuase its so true. my man has been gone for 2 weeks for a year long tour of afghnistan and its killing me.<br />
girls in the civilian life jsut dont understand they constantly ***** to me about how their men arnt around fr 1 night, its like hunny i dont see my man for a year and some odd months at a time so dont b**** to me because your mans gone for 1 night! god im glad this sight helps me so much

i LOVE this, its so true i think civillian girlfriends need to relize that what they have is amazing and we pray and wish to see our guys everyday..

i HOPE this isnt as true as it seems!!!<br />
My boyfriend just left for bootcamp today...i miss him so much. i hope these two months flyyyyy.

I love this! It reminds me of my old roommate who use to complain because she seen her bf every night and then one night out of the week he works late and can't see her. A lot of civilan girls get on my nerves; the way they take everything forgranted!

I am glad I don't have friends to listen to them complain about there itty bitty problems. Ha! Every second is so important, I got the rude awakening. I miss my honey. Two weeks couldn't pass any slower...then after that it is going to be a long fifteen months.

I love that it came from the heart its so true. After my baby leaves from two week christmas vacation home. I will miss him so much then he will be gone another 3 months, then who knows where he will be stationed next after fort leonard wood missouri. I do miss him so much I wrote him over 20 letters and sent it to him yesterday from the time he left to basic till yesterday I lost so much weight and I sent him a new picture of me. I haven't gotten a letter from him since his first week of being in basic but he said he would send it and i believe it and i always check my mailbox I never give up hope. I know he is very busy I understand that. When I see him for his graduation he will see a new me skinny more radiant, beautiful supportive and strong boy i care for him so much!! THats what army gf's do support strive and strong. Hooah! to all military gf's

It's very true!! Stupid civillian girls! They aren't strong enought to handle what we can. We are army strong!

OMG! first off i thought i was the only crazy gf that kept even his texts sometimes also i was just thinking about all this the other night well every second but it was really hitting me hard the other night. my best friend saw her bf about 12 hours before she said that she missed him soo much and blah blah blahhhhhh and i cant take it anymore when girls say this it gets me soo mad! and i try to get it into my best friends head about how much i miss my baby and how much it sucks to not be able to see him everyday or even hear his voice every day but i really dont think she gets it and i understand noone really can until they go through all this but a little consideration and not complaining about how much she misses her dumb bf would be nice

This is so true.!!<br />
Thanks for sharing.!<br />
I'm Tiffany.!

this is so true! after crying while reading it and re-reading it to make sure i read everything, i realised i'm not the only one who refuses to take his dogtags off. not bc they look cool but bc thats the only thing that we both have that stays right against our hearts until the next time we see eachother

this is so true! after crying while reading it and re-reading it to make sure i read everything, i realised i'm not the only one who refuses to take his dogtags off. not bc they look cool but bc thats the only thing that we both have that stays right against our hearts until the next time we see eachother

Ahh this is so true, it nearly made me cry! xx

this is sooo inspiring n soo true!! those stupid girls dont kno what its like to really miss him!.they dont know what its really like to want to hear his voicce for just ten seconds at least.. its so much more than the easy stuff they got... i miss my soldier

This is so very true!!!!<br />
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I hate that my man is gone all the time and i cant do anything about it! and i cant go and see him.<br />
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But then these other girls complain about not seeing their man for 1 night!!!<br />
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Ugh i miss him

It's taken me 10 minutes to finish wiping the tears from my eyes after that note. My boyfriend won't be home until April 30, we hope!! This is his second deployment, but my first with him. He's my world, my heart, my best friend, and without a doubt- the greatest man I've ever known! I'm terrified I'll miss his phone calls, but would miss hours of sleep to hear his voice for a few seconds... Thank God I already saved the first VM when he said "I love you" before saying goodbye...

My hubby just got deployed. I swear I was reading through tears. I'm completely overwhelmed and if one girl starts b*tching about any of that crap in the next couple of months within hearing distance...I may lose it!! I'm so proud of my soldier. You can keep your Ken doll, I'll take my GI JOE anyday of the week!! HOOAH!!

i definately agree with this! every single sentence, my soldier is my evrything

i love yall so cute thats it all the way lol

sooo true. every single one. =] my babys my life. i hate when girls ***** about all that because they have no damn clue. they ***** when their boyfriend cant see them for a day! try months, dammmn soo true. :) im so proud of my baby

new to this and soooo pissed that i ever to one second for granted. my man has not left yet but will in june and im holding on to EVERY SINGLE BREATH. Im so proud!!

wow all that is sooo true!! Damn civilian girlfriends!