I Am In a Sexless Relationship
So she doesn't want me anymore.
She's got a new focus in her life, a guy at work.
Valentine's day, she blows me off when I wanted to see her long enough to give her a rose and a tease of the evening to come. Round I went, all sneaky like, to leave the rose in her vehicle. There she is, just hanging out with her new "friend."
"Oh, sorry," said I, " wanted to leave you a surprise." She kisses me, thanks me, says she has to get back to work now. I went and had some coffee and wandered around the mall for about an hour and went back to where she was parked. Still there, so is he.
She insists they are just close friends. She clearly prefers his company. I have observed her texting him at all hours, sending him little flirty emoticons and calling him "baby." She is secretive, hypersensitive about it when I ask her about how she spends her time working 14 hour days and is always broke.
Meanwhile, at home, she is ice cold. She hasn't let me touch her in months. Things had been slow for some time, but with her new man around there is nothing left. She is on a constant fault-finding mission. She can't stand my son (previous marriage) and treats him worse than an animal.
I have sought out a therapist and offered to go to couples' therapy with her.
I cook her food, clean up her mess, pay the bills, maintain her vehicle, and even got a house large enough for her mother to have a suite for almost nothing. Yes, I'm a chump and I know it.
What I have not told her is that I have given her until July1 to show improvement. At that point I will be leaving her if there has not been substantial improvement. I can even understand the sexless part, while hating it. Dry spells can happen, right? What I can't deal with is the contempt required to treat me this way. I went out to her vehicle to get something and there was the rose I got her, not even opened.
She's got a new focus in her life, a guy at work.
Valentine's day, she blows me off when I wanted to see her long enough to give her a rose and a tease of the evening to come. Round I went, all sneaky like, to leave the rose in her vehicle. There she is, just hanging out with her new "friend."
"Oh, sorry," said I, " wanted to leave you a surprise." She kisses me, thanks me, says she has to get back to work now. I went and had some coffee and wandered around the mall for about an hour and went back to where she was parked. Still there, so is he.
She insists they are just close friends. She clearly prefers his company. I have observed her texting him at all hours, sending him little flirty emoticons and calling him "baby." She is secretive, hypersensitive about it when I ask her about how she spends her time working 14 hour days and is always broke.
Meanwhile, at home, she is ice cold. She hasn't let me touch her in months. Things had been slow for some time, but with her new man around there is nothing left. She is on a constant fault-finding mission. She can't stand my son (previous marriage) and treats him worse than an animal.
I have sought out a therapist and offered to go to couples' therapy with her.
I cook her food, clean up her mess, pay the bills, maintain her vehicle, and even got a house large enough for her mother to have a suite for almost nothing. Yes, I'm a chump and I know it.
What I have not told her is that I have given her until July1 to show improvement. At that point I will be leaving her if there has not been substantial improvement. I can even understand the sexless part, while hating it. Dry spells can happen, right? What I can't deal with is the contempt required to treat me this way. I went out to her vehicle to get something and there was the rose I got her, not even opened.
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