I am in a long term with a beautiful younger widow. She has a son 16 who is now and always will be my son also. She has many problems but i love her all the same. Very insecure,narcissist, pills(pain,anti depressants,valium,barbiturates,sleep,drinks every day but not much). Craves attention and affection. Our electric sex life wained then died. I knew then found her cheating and was devastated. We split but i scratched and clawed to find a way to get it back. I found taken in hand and read and read. We gave it a try. She always loved being dominated and spanked in sex so she loved it. After a month or so of getting better and better (sex back in the picture) she started resenting the spanking. the sex stopped and i new she was back with him. Maybe 3 weeks ago i caught her again texting him that she loved him and couldn't wait to see him tomorrow. I was pissed. I said f you, never again and left. I wouldn't answer calls , texts,notes, nothing. She panicked. She begged,pleaded,went for help and promised all sorts of restrictions and plans. I can't believe it myself but i went back. My son needs me ,he can't lose another father.(heart attack) We are working hard to make it work. All of us(they don't get along great but its getting better. Trust is a big problem. I'm always suspecting every meeting,every phone call and always on edge. We have tried taken in hand and she says she really wants to cause it seemed to help so much the last time,but? She seems resentful when i put her over my knee, and complains over light spankings,saying i'm hurting her on purpose and i'm being mean. I'm not , i'm stopping to sooth and comfort, telling her i love her but it is going nowhere. HELP!