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I Am In a Taken In Hand Relationship

Did You Say Thank You For Spanking Me?

By: JennaR
Written on October 15th, 2012
By: JennaR
Age: 46-50 , Female
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    jnellia

    Very good read! That shows allot of respect for your husband:) I read your stories and look up to you. I normally don't cry during a spanking though. They hurt but its just not me.

    Jun 2
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      JennaR

      I don't generally cry either. That has more to do with my emotions and mind set at the beginning of the spanking. There have been a couple where I was crying before it even started.

      Jun 2
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    streets718

    VERY WELL WRITTEN, THANK YOU 1000 TIMES AND OVER LOL

    May 6
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    MatildaEve

    Yes I have! I say, ''Thanks! Thanks a whole bunch!!!''... then I rub my bum and walk away shaking my head. (Sometimes this is met with another spanking,,, if I'm not careful! lol)

    May 1
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      JennaR

      Yes there is something about the tone in which it is said...

      May 1
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      MatildaEve

      Well he should thank me too! I have to come up with all kinds of nice devious behavior so that I get spanked! You think it's easy being this adorable and naughty? It takes work! Work I tell YOU! I mean, I'm always good,,, but then he would be bored so I spice things up a bit!

      May 1
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      JennaR

      So very kind of you to keep things lively dear.

      May 1
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      JennaR

      Oh did I mention I held a contest...Your husband just won a horse whip for being the most patient of men....Hahahahahaha

      May 1
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      MatildaEve

      I do what I can. :o) When I started this I found that I was just an angel. I never am rude or naughty. So I had to completely change so that my hubby would have incentive. I really am quite the saint. :o)

      May 1
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      MatildaEve

      He wants to know when you're going to mail it to him! (He really did!! I read that to him! Darn YOU!!!!!!!!)

      May 1
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    whodareswins6

    I don't believe in DD but I respect my wife and the work she does

    Apr 30
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      JennaR

      It is not for everyone. Every relationship is different.

      Apr 30
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      whodareswins6

      I just think that it's wrong, you are a person, you had a childhood where you were told right from wrong, and that they prepare you for living as a grown woman, but as you said, everyone is different.

      May 1
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      JennaR

      It is ok if you do not agree. I am good with that. I do not expect everyone to find our life style their cup of tea. It is what we believe, and is quite common to our church family. I find my husband respects me a great deal.
      In my career I think people would be surprised however, to find that we live this way at home. I am quite confidant and intelligent.

      May 1
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      whodareswins6

      If that is what you are, then I have no say. The one thing that bugs me is that parents are forcing there kids to do this (Not talking about Rachel). A few years ago, I meet a family where the kids were being forced to do this, and they never wanted to do this, they wanted to live a life of their own, but they said that the parents would disown them if they do. That's sick...

      May 1
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      JennaR

      We did not force our kids in matters of their marriages we stay hands off. If they ask for advice I am careful to word things in a way that lets them know what choices they make are up to them.

      I don't discuss their sex lives with them I feel this is just as intimate an issue and would not presume to intrude. I think they are all doing quite well with out interference from us. They were all very good kids and fairly easy to raise. I see no reason why they should be any different as adults.

      May 1
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    LiebesErziehung

    I think it is a good thing, because it is an aditional act of obedience. That shows the woman has learned her lesson.

    Apr 30
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    Kandi41

    I would thank him in more ways than one. :)

    Apr 24
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      baybeegirl87

      Same here

      Apr 24
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    Ineedarealwoman

    Some women, I have seen, put their HOH. on a pedistal thinking he can never mess up miss a step and he never stresses. Its nice to see an appreciative sub wife. My wife always thanks me after.

    Apr 10
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      JennaR

      Thank you. I imagine you have a very loving relationship

      Apr 10
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    kapteinduiwel

    Love u all.

    Apr 1
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    TEMPOLTON

    Finaly someone recognising the burden a strong man has to carry...

    Mar 5
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    JackAndJillDD

    I always thank my HoH for everything he does.
    A good HoH uses a lot of time thinking about his spouse.
    He runs the home, pays the bills, makes numerous decisions,
    enforces rules, listens to his wife, comforts her, disciplines her,
    and so much more.
    I ask permission for many things and thank him for everything, especially discipline.

    Feb 10
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      JennaR

      I get the feeling the two of you are very happy. What a delightful relationship you have

      Feb 10
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      JackAndJillDD

      Thank you Jenna!
      We're still learning - the journey is a long one and new things pop up along the way.
      That's what makes domestic discipline so exciting - there are new things to learn, new control issues to work and and let go of. New sides of our HoH that are amazing as they become more and more at ease with running the family and disciplining! We never stop learning. For each old habit I leave behind, there is something new up ahead to learn about!

      Feb 10
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      JennaR

      The best part is the learning is something Paul and I are doing together. I am certain you enjoy that as well.

      Feb 10
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    Helenicious

    Wish to have you. I really do DominantDon. I'm in Georgia. Happy for you. Wanting you

    Jan 25
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    SpankYourBareNow

    As a Head of Household figure, I am very gratified to hear your thoughts about Thanking your punisher for. his efforts.
    You speak well and with a clear insight and I value the thoughts you are sharing.
    It is my role to discipline my spouse, and also to assume that role for other men who are either untrained in that task or reticent to perform it.
    I also take on ths role for women who acknowledge

    Dec 28, 2012
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    josfairmaiden

    I never really thought of it like that. I'm very sore right now after being punished quite severely (and deservedly) yesterday. Maybe I will thank him tonight. He gives me discipline I lack

    Dec 3, 2012
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      JennaR

      In this particular situation I would recommend that. While it definitely was not easy for you I am certain he would appreciate it.

      Dec 3, 2012
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      josfairmaiden

      Just wanted to let you know, last night I thanked my husband for Spanking me on Sunday and thanked him for loving me enough to care about by behaviour. He was really surprised but really pleased too. You were so right.

      He admitted that it was harder than I could have imagined to paddle me the way he did because he knew it hurt a lot and that, having only been paddled twice before, that I am particularly scared of paddles. He explained that however hard completing my punishment had been, he was determined to keep me safe and our children and that he felt driving his point home the way he did was Necessary. I am so glad I read your story. You were so right. I feel more loved than ever and I know how he appreciated my thanks.
      JennaR, you are a star. Thank you
      Jossie

      Dec 4, 2012
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      JennaR

      I am so proud of you dear. You did the work here, and I know it wasn't all that easy. Good for you! I am so happy that it brought the two of you closer. Hugs

      Dec 4, 2012
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      Jameshoh

      JennaR, I am Josfairmaiden's husband. I have just joined EP and wanted to thank you for the good advice and kind support you have shown my wife.

      Dec 16, 2012
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      JennaR

      Thank you Sir. I am honored.

      Dec 22, 2012
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    mcdi

    You are a very rare woman but is there not some element of pleasure involved?smile

    Nov 13, 2012
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      JennaR

      My husband has admitted he does enjoy the sight of my hinny. Only after I admitted how unbelievably awkward I feel sticking it out there to be disciplined. ~Blush

      Nov 14, 2012
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      mcdi

      Yes but youre answer says you enjoy it or am I wrong?

      Nov 15, 2012
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    amysdaddy

    Jenna I love when you write!
    I thank you for this. amy always thanks me afterward. And while no I do not enjoy hurting her I do enjoy seeing her butt turn red. I also enjoy the way a spanking mellows her out and helps her to refocus, regroup, and get a fresh start. It's a giant do-over button for both of us.
    When I see my wonderful wife go out of her way to do something for me or our children I always take the time to thank her and let her know I recognize the effort and energy she has put into it. amy in turn thanks me when I do things to help the family move smoothly and function well. this includes disciplinary measures. I worry about properly handling my role and do spend a lot of time making sure that the punishment is fitting and is neither excessive or lacking.
    I feel as a HoH I have a responsibility to build up my household motivate them and encourage them to excel in everything they do. I try to never take this lightly so I appreciate your sharing. Thank You!

    Nov 12, 2012
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      JennaR

      Thank you. You impress me every time I read your writing as a very loving husband and father.

      Nov 12, 2012
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    daguid

    i just happened to trip over this story. i find it rather refreshing to know that you also recognize the fact that you ,"go too far."
    i too an the HOH of my home. my woman knows what "pushes my buttons" and ....doesn't go there. she's been there and done that. she's learned...
    plz add me to your circle. you write well and i wouln't wanna miss any other stories that you might write.
    be well,

    Nov 9, 2012
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    EatingCROW

    oh. no. that is not Christian... christian grey perhaps.... but nothing that Jesus would say. He commanded husbands to love their wives as themselves. and wives to obey thier husbands. and parents not to "spare the rod" from their children. a woman who knows her husband respects her, wants to do what he likes...... beating someone into submission is wrong. whether you are animal, man, woman, child.

    Nov 8, 2012
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      JennaR

      Our husbands do not beat us into submission, or abuse us in any way. There is a huge difference between a simple spanking and beating or abuse. I can find you many verses where God commands husbands to chastise their wives, as well as the children. It also says Who God loveth he chastiseth and when he told husbands to love their wives hes told them to love them the way God loves them.

      In Proverbs he went so far as to say a husband who does not use the rod to correct his household (that would include the wife) Hates his household. I can recommend a good book on the subject if you are interested in doing the research.

      Most of us in Christian domestic discipline relationships are very private about it because generally people don't want to take the time to understand and just think we are perverts or abused. The opposite is true. My husband treats me very well. To be honest I have never been happier.

      Nov 8, 2012
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      daguid

      AMEN! well spoken. i applaud you.
      BRAVA!!!

      Nov 9, 2012
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    kamadeva1987

    well... sometimes they never cross her mind.. I think those stressful think are part of responsibility to become a husband..

    Nov 8, 2012
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      JennaR

      Got to be honest dear, there are times when I am about to be spanked I find it hard to feel all that sympathetic toward him. I admit I am a little more worried about my own butt.

      Nov 8, 2012
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    IQplusfun

    This aspect was kind of difficult to comprehend straight away for me as a surrendered wife, who doesn't get spanked. But I suppose after looking at it more closely it translates into my lifestyle, too:
    Yesterday my husband noticed that the paint job I had done on our entrance stairs was showing some flaws (rust not being removed properly and causing further damage to the metal). In former times (before surrendering) I would have been going off at him about criticizing my hard work, but nowadays I know better. I realized that I had worked on the metal before we had some rain and had been under the impression that the metal was embedded in concrete at the bottom, but after heavy rainfall the 'concrete' turned out to be loose gravel and was washed away, revealing more rust... I explained this to my husband and thanked him for pointing my shortcoming out to enable me to do something about the situation and prevent further rust damage to the stairs. Truly, to me his criticism felt like a spanking and it's not easy to say thank you for it... But it's the right thing to do.

    Nov 8, 2012
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      JennaR

      You are a good hearted woman my dear. Your point that a lecture or talking to can hurt more than any spanking is true. I am proud of you for taking it in the loving way it was meant, and fixing the problem.
      Your setting an example here for all of us darling lady. Hugs

      Nov 8, 2012
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    ACuriousStudent

    It's an interesting concept to thank one's HOH for spanking you. I've done it before but not often.

    Nov 3, 2012
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      2doerver

      I do it every-time.

      Nov 6, 2012
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    sublucy

    I am expected to thank Him after a punnishment. I think it's only fair I do after all the hard work He puts into protecting and loving me .

    Nov 3, 2012
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    Modytota

    Very freaky story like it

    Nov 3, 2012
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    vicariousone

    Very nice story Jenna. Good to know that you are able to appreciate the concern your HOH has for you and your well being.

    Nov 2, 2012
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      JennaR

      Thank you Sir.

      Nov 2, 2012
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    violetnights

    Yes, I always thank my husband after he disciplines me. It happened tonight actually after he saw some of my candy wrappers at the bottom of the trash can (we are trying to eat healthy, but all that candy for trick-or-treaters was too tempting for me.) When he laid the belt down, I thanked him for loving me enough to care how I nourish my body and maintain my health. I thanked him for loving me enough to hold me accountable. I thanked him for loving me enough to spend the time and energy spanking me to deepen that bond. I always thank him while kneeling before him. It is very humbling, especially as tears are still running down my face and my voice is shaking, which only reinforces my role as his obedient and submissive wife.

    Oct 31, 2012
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      JennaR

      That is so touching and sweet, I have teared up myself. Thank you so much for sharing with me. Hugs

      Oct 31, 2012
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    Hisproperty

    I agree, yes i do thank my Owner, we too have more of D/s relationship, but in someways it is much the same. Near as i can tell the D/s life leans toward harder punishment than that of TiH. Please feel free to correct me if i am wrong.

    But back to the question, not only do i thank Daddy, but i usually end up kneeling at His feet, while thanking Him properly.

    Oct 28, 2012
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      JennaR

      Our is Christian domestic discipline more than Tih your right there are many different kinds, and many different ways even then. Good for you sweetheart

      Oct 28, 2012
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    2doerver

    Jenna, I agree wholehearted with you. During all the years my wife spanked me, I hugged and thanked her for the canings.

    Oct 24, 2012
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    HubbysBaby

    Our relationship is more of a D/s than TiH but we follow many of the same guidelines. I do thank my Husband for all spankings He gives me... Punishment or Good Girl spankings. He told me from the beginning that was/is part of my responsibilities. Sometimes I forget to do it right away but I try to remember.

    Oct 22, 2012
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      JennaR

      I know I am not perfect either. Then if we were perfect.............

      Oct 22, 2012
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      HubbysBaby

      Hee hee hee .......... I know life would be less fun or interesting

      Oct 22, 2012
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    mjg1968

    I do thank my boyfriend sometimes when he spanks me (usually after a few min). The one time I remember thanking him right away was when I got spanked with his hand, brush and paddle for taking all my frustrations out on him. I felt so bad for doing that. Thank you for posting this. Sometimes I forget he doesn't always like punishing me, but he knows it's what works for me. I adore him for being who he is.

    Oct 15, 2012
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      JennaR

      You have excellent manners =). I had to learn to do this, I am so proud of you for knowing to do it! I know for me it is not always easy, and yes I often have to "settle" down a bit first as well.
      Sobbing and thanking don't come out to well do they ~Smile

      Oct 15, 2012
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    Michelle0001

    I have tons of compassion for our husband's roles in marriages such as ours but it's kind of funny that his agonizing over the punishments doesn't seem to faze me at all, lol.

    Btw, I also thank my husband for any punishments as I do feel very fortunate he is able to give me exactly what I need.

    Oct 15, 2012
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      JennaR

      Yes, there are times when compassion is not what I am feeling as he is choosing an implement. ~Grin

      Oct 15, 2012
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      Michelle0001

      Exactly!

      Oct 15, 2012
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