Chore ListReading up on TIH I noticed people having chore list and rules. I will admit I thought it was ludicrous at first. However I understand it now. Im kinda excited to start mine (tomorrow).
Starting off in TIH the hubby has been home from work. I have had him all to myself and loving it. I love the little ways he controls things. Not in a over bearing way. If you understand the lifestyle, then I suppose you understand what im saying.
Were we talking and it dawned on me, "how am I going to feel your control when your not here?" The chore list is perfect! All day ill have a written reminder of what he wants done. All day he will probably wonder how far I got, etc. A way to stay connected when apart :)
I used to write out my own lists. My little OCD moments, plus the feeling of accomplishment when I check it off. Now the accomplishment is greater.
What I like best is we talked about it together. We figured what would work best for beginning this. I was honest and told him, "if I don't slack off, I can easily get 5 loads washed." So 5 loads it is! He's didn't make the list a impossible task. He even made a "just in case of overtime" list.
This only happened once this week. We were to busy cooking and getting the kids ready to head out. I couldn't help but feel a little bummed. I felt selfish that I wasn't getting special attention. I almost didn't tell him this, im glad I did. I realized that if he would've just gave me a task (anything) I would've felt better.
For example: I know I needed to shower but I was also on my phone messing around. If he would've said "put the phone down and go shower, ill give it to you later so we are not late" I would've been happy with that.
Do many TIH wives have list? How do you feel about them? What happens when its not enough?
silencedshy 26-30, F 9 Responses 1 Jan 21, 2013